Is it possible to change myself in two months?

Question

Last year i changed a lot i started partying a lot, going out getting drunk, smoking occasionally and acting a bit w***e like. I stopped caring about school and my grades went from A's to C's. I don't like this person anymore and i don't really know who i am. I just don't know where to start. I used to want to be the girl i am now so badly and now I'm here id give anything to go back. AH :(

Answer 1

Tasha said it all :) Its hard not to feel "tainted" after you do something that you know wouldnt fly with your usual standards. What I suggest is thinking about why you decided to become this party girl in the first place, what was it about yourself two months ago that is different now? There is no way to go back to being as naive as you were two months ago because now you know. Thats like saying you didn't like s*x the first time, then asking to go back to being a virgin again. Physically and mentally you cant. But it doesnt mean that you have to keep having s*x or in your situation, continue on being a party girl. Now, you know what you were missing, and  you find that it's not so great. So slow down,slugger. contact your teachers,see if they can offer extra credit, if not then you will have to work harder to balance those C's in the years to come.

Sometimes a two month phase is good, now that its over you can say, "whew" and get back on track. Be glad that you are responsible and mature enough to cut this short before your grades or your heath (alcohol dependency, std's, aids, stress, date rape, lung cancer)really suffered.

You can party and have a good time without drinking or smoking. I don't know where you live but I live in Las Vegas (PARTY CENTRAL) and it can be challenging to find things to do that don't center around getting trashed.I always look in my City Guide, a little book that gives me things to do in the city. You can do a whole, whole lot. Chances are you live somewhere that is famous for museums, or theatre's or even Farmers markets. If you dont want to do something like that take a trip with your girlfriends to a new city every so often, lead the way and explore.

Drop the guys that you have been hanging with. Everyone likes a girl that likes to party hard, and they will resist your retransition.



Stay safe, and reevaluate (meaning drop them)your new circle of friends.

Answer 2

What you need to do, is sit down and re-evaluate your life. Find what it is (or was) that started you on this path to destruction. Try to retrace your steps through out time and figure out why you've "rebelled" against yourself. Once you figure out that issue is, deal with it! (Head on). Talk with someone about it that will assist you with dealing with what ever emotions (anger, shame, guilt) that you're currently acting out against. Most destructive behavior is only carried out as a means of building up a defense against something that has emotionally affected a being.

Once you deal with it, forgive those who've hurt you, forgive yourself for hating them (or yourself), and forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made. Start your healing process and start getting yourself back on track. Re-evaluate your life in an attempt to figure out what it is you really want to do. Try to find out if the career plans you have are realistic, well-thought out, or in your opinion, worth the hard work that it will take to achieve them (because the problem could be that you don't know what it is you want to do anymore).

Convince yourself that you're worth a serious relationship (where someone will love and respect you for you) and not just some one night stand. Realize that your body is a temple, and should not be desecrated by you, or anyone else. After this "self evaluation" has taken place, just breath (inhale, exhale), open your eyes to the fact that life is only as bad as you make it. No matter what you're going through, there is always someone out there who has it worse. And give yourself the time needed (more than two months) to get back on the path to success.

Answer 3

You can change any or all of these things as soon as you make up your mind to do it.  You've already admitted that you don't like the way you are now.  Start taking steps right now to be the person you want to be, and the person you know you truly CAN be.  You hold the key.  If you need help to accomplish any of this, ask for it.  I know you can do it!

Answer 4

It is possible to change some things in less than a minute.  Start with your attitude.  I really do not know where this whole "partying" thing comes from.  So many of today's young people seem so impressed with it.  As someone who used to be in the club business and is related to someone who is quite successful in the club business, I can honestly tell you that it is all a bunch of baloney.  

No matter the club, it is basically a bunch of sheep wearing the style du jour, standing around posing or posing on an overly crowed dance floor and drinking themselves sick and telling each other how great it is.  It is sort of like the Emperor's New Clothes story.  No one wants to say that it is actually rather stupid and certainly not worth the effort.  

Think about it.  Even the most beautiful, wealthy and famous women in the world, wearing the most expensive outfits and going to the most exclusive clubs just pretty much stand around posing or posing on overly crowed dance floors and drinking themselves sick until they are reduced to little more than clownish cartoon versions of themselves.  

You would probably have a far better time sitting at home with a few close friends, sharing a bottle of wine and watching the clownish cartoons on TV make fools of themselves.  

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Answer 5

It's possible, you'd probably have to give up all your "friends" though...

Peer pressure is  a black hole.

good luck

Answer 6

Only you have the ability to be who you want to be. So if you truly believe that you want to change, then you have the power to change. Always believe in yourself. You have the power to do whatever you put your mind to. Good luck!

Answer 7

You can change! Concentrate on school so you can be sucessful!