Is it possible to deeply fall in love with someone and love them for the rest of your life?

Question

Im not talking about your mom or dad. Im talking about love that will never leave you. Now i see so many people say that they are in love and then get divorced. But iv'e also seen older people get married when they were 18 and are now 78 and love each other more and more with each day. But in this day and age is seems impossible to love someone without wondering wheter they are cheating or lying about something or have some sort of other problem that is too hard to get past.

Im thinking Twilight love (without the vampires).

Can it still happen?

Answer 1

yes me and my girl have been happily together and i believe we can stay together for ever

Answer 2

Yes, love can and does last for a lifetime with many many couples.  

You just don’t read about them as often because their stories are not juicy and fraught with drama and intrigue.    But make no mistake, to sustain a relationship it takes commitment and plenty of effort.  Love alone will not sustain the marriage.

No marriage is without its problems but there is no problem within a marriage that cannot be overcome if both are willing to face it together.   Certainly love is key to drawing two people together but love waxes and wanes in a relationship and “feelings” can deceive.  

Trust is critical to the longevity of a healthy marriage.  If either party goes into the relationship with suspicion and mistrust then they either have reason to feel that way or they are insecure and have issues to resolve before committing to the marriage.  In either situation it is better not to marry.

Far too many individuals enter into a union looking forward to what they will get out of it rather than what they want to put into it.

I’ve heard too many individuals say how much they love their mates but they fight all of the time or they are bored or the passion is gone or they simply “want” more.  

Many couples understand what love is and do love their mates.  But they do not understand what commitment is.  They make vows only to break them.  And yet each vow begins with “I promise”.  

No, it is not impossible for a young couple to get married today and find themselves still faithfully committed and deeply in love with each other years from now.   Unfortunately, far too many choose to pack in the relationship and not stay the course at the slightest hint that they might have to surrender some of their independence.  They are unwilling to put their mate first and themselves last- even when they may be in the right.

  Far too many go in with the attitude that nothing lasts forever and at some point the relationship will end.  And that is just plain wrong.

The survival of any marriage depends very much on the attitude with which one has entered into a marriage union.  And that attitude has everything to do with knowing that love is more than just a feeling.  It is the prequel to a life long commitment.  A commitment to the understanding and acceptance that:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in wrong doing but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always preserves. And above all- love always perseveres.

Answer 3

I am doubtful. It does happen, obviously, but it has become a rarity. And to the 18 year old who has been with her bf for a year and a half- get back to us in 10 years, or better yet-5, and I bet you two won't even know each other anymore, more or less be together. When you are 18 you are going to go through so many life changes (college, jobs, apartments, friends, etc)  and its hard to stay on the same wavelength. I think the longer you date someone, and hold off on marriage until your absolutely sure, the better your chances are. People are getting married way too young nowadays-hence the divorce rate.

Answer 4

I believe it is possible but I do think it a long term relationship that people fall in and out of love.  As far as what is in someones past it is usually best to leave it there.  The love that you are describing is so deep that even problems of trust can be worked out.  My husband and I have been married 12 years. we have worked out so many problems that we were told that we would never overcome.  Believing in yourself and each other is the key, if something happens to doubt your love seek help.  

Answer 5

i know that im only 18 and i have only been with my boyfriend for a year and almost 6 months! but i love him more and more with every givin day! also he and i have been through a lot within the last 11 months! trust me when i say this! and i know for a fact that i will always be with him! i love him so much and i trust him with all my heart! and he loves me and turst me the same!

Answer 6

i think so...(if you really love each other)

the important thing in a relationship as I've learned is TRUST!!!!

trust each other and you will come up in an everlasting relationship...

Answer 7

Yes, for me, hope springs eternal.  I'm 46 and I'm still hoping and believing.  I can believe, or I can be doubtful.  Believing makes me feel better.  Doubting makes me feel not so good.  So I get to choose my own level of hope.  

Answer 8

haha i was thinking of twilight while reading that.

and no i dont believe in true love anymore. there are way to many things that get in the way.  

Answer 9

Possible, yes.  Likely, no.  

Answer 10

i think u can still wonder if ur significant other is cheating and still b madly in love with them. so yes, i think u can fall in love with someone and love them for the rest of ur life.