Is it possible to fall in love with someone through the internet ? With someone you actually never met ?

Question

I start it with read her writing on the net and (I don’t know why) somehow I really love it. Then I chat with her for a few times. It’s so strange that my heart always pound everytime I chat with her. Then on the next days I look at her real pictures…whew…she’s so gorgeous. She’s adorable.

I’m single and not in a relationship. But I’m considering that I must retreat, walk away and forget about her. I feel like she’s really special you know. But I wonder if my feeling for her is a healthy love. I’m afraid that the feeling growing strong and strong. Oh God, I can stop thinking about her. I always thinking about her. I’m totally lost right now.

It’s not a long time ago. My heart telling me that the feeling is real, but my mind keep telling me that it’s impossible, it’s so unreal. Help me my brudah and sista, give me some advice :

1. Where did love come from ?

2. Is it possible to fall in love with someone through the internet ? With someone you actually never met ?

3. Should I retreat, walk away, forget about her and continue my life ?

4. Is there any chance that in the future I will regret it so much if I just walk away from her ?

Thanks for your kind attention.

Answer 1

3 years ago I was contacted by a guy i had never met on myspace. we messaged back and forth for a while, he was funny and i liked him. we met up after a few months and by the end of the night i was totally in love. We were engaged 3 weeks later and we decided to have a looong engagement - after one year we went to america so i could meet his family - it went great. A year after that we got married. and now we have been married for a year in November.

I am still in love

Answer 2

hey =) I've met a fair share of awesome people through the net.  I'd say that it is possible to get to know someone and the idea of them.  However, I don't know if what you're picturing in your head and how she is in real life are the same.  Instead of walking away from her, you can just remind yourself of reality.  It's okay to have a crush on someone... I do it all the time! But for now just keep talking to her.

It's easy to have strong feelings when someone is so new and different from everything you've known or anyone else that you've met.  I do think that there could be a chance of regret if you stop talking to her.  If you look at the world we live in... most people end up falling "in love" and marrying a spouse who is

a. the same race and/or religion.

b. lives within a 25 mile radius of where they live.

c. are within 5 years of each others age.

Now call me crazy, but in a world as big as ours.... and with the fact that we can now reach out to millions of people with a single button.. it really opens up the playing field.  Tons of people have met online and made it work.

I'm not saying that's what's going to happen for you, but i'm also not saying that it's impossible!  So... sorry for the long post but, live for today.  If she so happens to make you happy today then I think you should keep her around =)

Answer 3

It's definately possible...happened to me and my friend emily b4....she is still trying to get over her heartache after they broke up....from my experience...the distance and everything...makes it feel twice as strong and twice as hard if it ends

Answer 4

You love her as a person, before you saw what she looks like. I think that's much healthier then most of the shallow relationships most people have.

However, long distance relationships are hard and take emotionally strong people to work.  

Answer 5

I'm not sure, but if you really think about her that much, then it might be true love. I think you should meet up with her, just to be sure it's real love. You never know!

Answer 6

Don't think its possible to fall in love with someone you never met, but if you meet them and stuff, maybe....

Answer 7

yea actually it is. i've never fallen in love with someone over internet but my boyfriend did.  

Answer 8

1. thats an impossible question to answer

2. no its not possible to fall in love with somone over the internet. u might develop a crush yes but not love.

3. yes probably.. unless you can meet up with her

4. no; how can you regret something you never had?

Answer 9

yes it is possible to fall in love with some one that you have never met over the internet. Because it removes a major element that many people are picky about the physical features of a person. That is what love is about the true person and not just looks. Many people are only worried about looks but you get to know a person better by talking with them and learning about them by talking. Love and life is not about a person's looks it about what you feel for each other and the actual personality of a person that matters.  

Answer 10

I can say from personal experience that it is possible to fall in love online. I met my boyfriend of one year online, though we had been talking for a few years as friends before getting together.  

Answer 11

Well, this is about that time you ask yourself this question; do you fall for people eaisly? If not, the perhaps this is real love.

I've thought I was in love with somebody over the internet and I still care for that person very deeply. Its a beautiful thing getting to know someone online first because when you get to know someone on the internet first, no picture no nothing, only words, its like you take an infatuation with their mind. Not what's based on looks and all this bullcrap people are blinded by. Its sinceer. But honestly, in my case, once I met the person it was like two diffrent feelings. I built this person up in my head as this complete fantasy, I only saw the good, and the deep side of him. Once I met him in person, everything was just so diffent.. I mean he was the same, but in my head I built him up to be something so much greater and breath taking. But sometimes people are lucky enough to find that one person who makes you heart race, makes your breath increase then decrease, makes your chest thump, I say don't walk away from this feeling unless you feel like this fantasy, this cyber romance, is really getting in the way of reality, and taking over your mind because that wouldn't be very healthy =(

Hope this helped? (=