Is it possible to hate your parents...?

Question

I ask this question because I have mixed emotions about my mother. I am 25yoF and for the first 9 years of my life it was just me and her a was a only child until she met her ex-husband. Her life revolved around him and he treated me like c**p. He never interacted with me at all, like i was never there. My bro and sis was born and it kinda became worse. They moved all there stuff to the top floor of the house and left me on the first floor with my grandparents ( we had a three family home). I kinda felt abandoned in some sense keep in mind at the time I was an 11yo kid. I watched him hit her and pull a gun out on her once. And still she stayed with him. I was always an A+ student and never gave any trouble. Around 21yo I was a full-time student in a good school and worked full-time too, me and my stepfather got into a fight over the computer and he said I had to leave and when I looked at my mom to help she turned the other way. I am so angry at her but yet I talk to her out of loyalty. I don't know how to tell her she hurt me because she always counteracts what I say. I dont wanna be mean about the situation either. HELP !!

Answer 1

Sure.

It's much more likely that you're frustrated with them, and emotionally that comes out as anger.

She wasn't there for you when you felt like you needed help, and especially abandoned you in terms of sticking up for you with her husband.

But let's look at the other side, anyone with good self esteem that was abused, (not to mention having a gun pulled on them), would have called the cops and sent him packing.

So your mom has problems, and likely didn't provide you with the safe and loving home you would have preferred.

Make d**n sure YOU don't do the same if you ever have children.

Talk it over with her, tell her how you felt, and what her decisions did to you.

FORGIVE HER, she's still your mom.

I'm glad she finally got away from the guy.........however it happened.

Luck

Answer 2

I literally can not stand my mother. I wouldn't say I hate her every second, maybe every 2 minutes though. I moved 3 states away from her and never speak to her. It may seem sad, but sometimes life dishes you out c**p you never really asked for. If people told me to give it time...I would say perhaps in 3.9 billion years I may send her a postcard saying.."Hi". But won't put my return address on it. It's your life. Live it.Dream it. Do it.

Answer 3

tuff one...your mom needs love in her life and she is trying to get it BUT how she reacted when you got into the fight wasnt right at all.....

sometimes is better to write your feelings (i suggest one mean, strong letter to brake it in thousand pieces first and let go your anger and then another letter to give to your mom

are you living with her still? hope not

we all make mistakes and be a parent is not easy at all. give it some time and remember your mom is human, so do you

Answer 4

Yes it is VERY possible to hate your parents...sadly =/

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Answer 5

Your step-dad demonstrates all the classic symptoms of an abuser. Unfortunately, your mom will not leave her abusive husband until she is convinced that he will absolutely kill her. It is also common that the kids do not figure in when the adults get together and marry.

All you can do is tell your mom that what she can expect is an increase in violence. When she is finally either fed up with the abuse or is finally convinced she is going to die at his hands, then your home is open to her for a short period.  

Answer 6

my mom wuz exactly like that 2 me and my sister but she didn't seem 2 care my mom died when i wuz six but after everything i still loved her and i am 15 now

after everything i went through i still loved her and could never stop she is my mother

u never know wut u had until u lost it and if u wanna say this 2 ur mom then tell her sit her down and tell how much she hurt u and she will listen no matter wut ur her daughter and she will never stop caring :) i hope this helps  

Answer 7

I think you have turned out remarkably well despite a difficult early life. You should be proud of yourself and while you should stay in touch with your family, let the anger go because your Mother KNOWS how badly you have been treated even if she chooses to ignore it. Make your life truly great by learning from the bad example these people have set you. It is possible to love people and just not like them much  - it is hard to deal with but until your Mother is prepared to listen to you, dont let her get to you.

Answer 8

If that were me i would hate my mom also... and i would not be talking to her at all thats awful.