Is it possible to have a happy marriage with someone that you have no physical attraction to?

Question

Is it possible to have a happy marriage with someone that you have no physical attraction to?

Answer 1

This depends on what you and your spouse mean by 'happy marriage'.

For me, there has got to be both physical attraction as well as some level of common interests. For others, being 'friends for life' has worked in the context of marriage. Not sure I could spend my life that way.

Is it shallow on my part? Somewhat. But in many aspects of my life, I am a 'visual' thinker, and this extends into my relationship.  

Answer 2

I think some people have asexual marriages. As long as you not only are not physically attracted to them but are also not out looking for the affection of another, then it may work. Your spouse may have attraction to you and as long as you don't mind meeting their sexual needs you should be ok... of course I would never recommend confiding in them that they do absolutely nothing for you....  

Answer 3

In my opinion, no.  I was with a guy for a while, and I had to have a couple of drinks to be interested in s*x.  Not a happy place to be in.

Answer 4

I think it would be difficult. Usually the physical attraction is what starts off a relationship.  Then the relationship grows into friendship, love, and ultimately life partnership.  But, physical attraction is usually the basis for it all.  I think you can have an awesome friendship with someone you are not attracted to, and if friendship is all that you are looking for in your marriage, then you could be satisfied.  But, really, I think you have to have some level of physical attraction or you'll eventually be lured away from the marriage to someone you are attracted to.

Answer 5

utopian dream?

Answer 6

Not until you are old and less horney.

Answer 7

no chance, impossible.not worth

Answer 8

maybe..but it would be really hard. if you meet someone that you are attracted to during your marriage....you might be tempted to cheat. i'm not saying you personally but things like that happen. he/she should think about why they love that person and whether they will always love them. the other person may just be really sweet..but there's no spark.  

Answer 9

no did u marry him for money.  

Answer 10

You must have been at one time.  Can you sit down and talk to him about it?  Communication is key.  What did he do to become non-attractive to you.  Maybe if you figure that out you can fix the problem.  

Answer 11

it isnt possible at all. i mean look at my family! my dad is u g l y. but very wealthy. my mom is soooooooooooooooo pretty and guess how their maraige ended up? in court like half the other americans !

Answer 12

No.  I don't care what anyone tells you.  Physical attraction is NOT everything, but its part of it.  I mean everyone I've dated i was first attracted to them for some physical quality then i got to know them and that really made the decision as to where the relationship was going.  And I think that makes a good marriage.  Not only does my husband make me laugh and can give me excellent conversation, but I love to look at him and be with him physically. lol

Answer 13

Not if you're shallow.

Answer 14

i dont think so.

think about it.

the one thing that makes me happy is that i get to be in the arms of and always around a man who i find extremely attractive, andthat makes me happy.

if i wasnt attracted to him, i'm sure i wouldnt feel the way i do.

Answer 15

you have to know what type or person you are. with women sometimes its a person personality that makes the relationship work. if that is you then yes but if your still looking for brad pitt. then no. bottom line are you lookking for a s*x partner or a companion. you be the judge.

Answer 16

Yes - but you have to have developed true love with that person that is beyond infatuation and all of the nonsense people call "love" nowadays. Anyone can get in a car wreck or something else and lose the things that made them attractive to you at some point in their life. Real love is more about what you do for another person than what they look like and how "attractive" they are - otherwise the elderly would have to all get divorced at some point as alot of those s**y traits do tend to disappear over time. So, there must be something more important that holds people together in the long term - it's called sacrifice, commitment and loving someone else more than yourself. This question is like asking, "can you love an ugly baby?" The answer of course is - yes - if you are their mother - why? Because you love them - and real love isn't based on outward appearances but on the deeper things of the spirit and heart.

Answer 17

no, there is alot more to a relationship than physical attraction, but it is important, s*x is an important part of a relationship, physical attraction is an important part of s*x.

Answer 18

That would strictly be a friendship. Obviously couples who are married have a friendship, but there is also a sexual attraction there. A marriage with no physical attraction is just two friends playing house.  

Answer 19

I think it's possible to have a happy marriage but not a fulfilling one.  You want be getting your basic needs met by the person who makes you happy (s*x).  That being said,  I fully believe that people grow on you.  You might not be attracted right now, but I have come across this myself , One day you look up and there is something about this person that you have never noticed before. I was really good friends with this guy and I really thought he was ugly. Then one day I looked at him and he wasn't ugly anymore and I am so glad that day happened b/c he was the best lay that I ever had.  Our relationship didn't last but the memories will.  

Answer 20

No, not for me. I'm sorry. I did try it a time or two though. It made me feel awful to be with someone I felt no sexual attraction to.