Is it possible to have a life and get good grades?

Question

I can't pay attention to school work because I'm thinking about boys and shopping and stuf like that .

Answer 1

I agree with Glurpy that shopping isn't life - school is more life than shopping is.  Shopping is just "stuff".

I know that it's really hard not to think about your social life most of the time at your age, but you need to cultivate other interests so that you can become a balanced, productive, happy person.  One way to cultivate other interests is to put your best into your schoolwork, to help find out what things interest you.

The most well-rounded, fun to be around people I have ever met (from high school and through adulthood) have been people who were interested in real things, not just clothes and boys.  They got good grades, participated in extra-curriculars (like sports) and took electives that were interesting.  You will find as you get older that you will have more to talk about and will be more interesting and meet more interesting people if you find things to be interested in:  sports, art, foreign languages, community service (important causes).  

Otherwise all of the time that should be spent finding direction in your youth is wasted in developing shallowness.  By all means, do stuff with friends (not just shopping) and earn some money of your own to shop with when you feel the urge.  But don't think that that's real life and everything else is  -- what?  Everything else is where the substance is.  The substance that makes you a worthwhile person and helps you feel good about yourself, even when you don't have a boyfriend or can't afford to shop!

Answer 2

You have to learn how to compartmentalize your mind.  There's a part for fun stuff like boys and shopping and a part for studying and work.  Close the fun part while you are studying, knowing that you can open it back up when you are done with your school work.  Learn how to train your mind and focus your attention.

Answer 3

Sure it is. It's when your hours are flexible, you work at your own pace and can finish a full day of work in half the time most people spend sitting in schools, can learn twice as much as you would when being taught to the tune of No Child Left Behind, and can still maintain an active social life on top of all of this, since you don't spend the bulk of your waking hours either in your house doing homework or in school learning to memorize and not to think. It's called homeschooling.

Answer 4

I'm pregnant,and i get good grades so i def had a life maybe too much of one but i do have a life and i am a A+ student

Answer 5

Then it just means you either need Ritalin, or your just not meant to be University material.

Answer 6

Yes, it is possible, but you have to choose it. You CAN pay attention. It takes discipline to push away those thoughts to what you decide you want to think about it, but you are by no means at the mercy of your thoughts. You just have to decide to think about other stuff.

Thinking about boys and shopping and stuff isn't "life". So, stop thinking about those things, put that effort into your school work and your grades will automatically improve.

Answer 7

I was homeschooled all my life and now i'm in college. All the five years I've been in college I've taken about 15 credits, worked and made time for a "life". The last year I have been engaged, so I know how it is to think about a girl alot. I have had very good grades. In fact I got over 40,000 in scholerships and grants. I am no smarter then most other people, you just have to discipline yourself. Check out my website and blog. It's not finished yet, but add it to favorites and check back soon.

Answer 8

i have a 3.7, im two advanced classes, have an AMAZING boyfriend who I daydream about 24/7 and hang out with him and my gurls every friday night. it can be done.

Answer 9

So your saying people who get good grades have no life? =[

Answer 10

I think it's okay to have a life; it means though more all-nighters in college.

Answer 11

Its a hard thing to do. Especially since the feeling of excitement about shopping and boys, is hard to set aside.

Try this: 1) Get two notebooks: one for "play" and one for "work". 2) Find a place where you will always study. Set it up. Sit down.

3) In the "work" book, write down how long you will study: lets say 15 minutes.

4) In the "play" book, write down all the exciting thoughts going through your mind as quickly as they come up. When the thoughts slow down, write down: I cant play now, because I will study 15 minutes.

5) Then write in the same "Play" book: "When I have studied for 15 minutes, I will take a break for ----- minutes and do -------.

6) In the "work" write: "start" study for  15 minutes.

7) study 15 mins.

8) When 15 mins over, you MUST stop (it was your promise to yourself): write down how long you studied:15 mins: good job. If less: write: "Its OK; just try again".

9) Do what you said you would do for play.

Repeat the process until all your work is done.

Answer 12

yes, it is possible. you just have to train your brain to focus on school work during school and think about shopping and boys and all that when you're going out with your friends. It's really easy.