Is it possible to just be friends with benefits for 5 months???

Question

So... me and my best guy friend decided to be more than friends 5 months ago! The s*x is awesome, and he tells me all the time he feels the same way! Anyway... I have seen other guys in between, because he has repeatedly told me he wont commit until he finds "the one!" But when i go out with other guys... he teases me about it... and then also wants to know all there is about the guy! He has also told me if I start sleeping with someone else... he at that point can no longer sleep with me... (which I wouldn't either... ill... that's gross!) Anyway... This is guy is my best friend in every sense of the word... and I think If we were together, things would just be even better... but i dont know... it hurts that he says stuff about "the one" in front of me,simply insinuating that I'm not her, but how does he know if he doesn't give it a shot? I don't feel like i can have this talk with him though, because we both agreed we would be friends with benefits! sadly... now i want more! He has a key to my house... we go on a weekend getaway every month... we both surprise eachother with stuff.... wether it be dinner, or concert tickets... I mean... does he like me? or what?

Answer 1

It is apparent that he likes you, and it is apparent that you have let the friends with benefits grow into more than it should have.  It works well when both just enjoy the s*x and the time together, but do not have any plans of comment with each other.  As a person who has several friends with benefits, I understand your feelings and desires, but it is not going to happen as you have dreamed.  He will find someone more his style and you will also.  So instead of worrying about whats going on with him, go out and have some fun.  Good luck.

Answer 2

if you ask him whether he likes you or not, 2 things can happen:

1. if he says yes, then you guys be together

2. if he doesn't feel the same way, it might ruin what you have with him. cause he'll find out that it is not exactly a "just friends with benefits anymore." therefore, he probably won't be comfortable hangin out with you again and you're left with nothing

so i dont really think asking is the best option here, maybe just let it happen and you might find out eventually

Answer 3

You can't honestly know when you've got friends with benefits going on. Next time you decide to go out with a guy and he asks you questions, instead of telling him tell him it's none of his business, don't be afraid of the consequences, if he gets angry- it simply means he's jealous and angered that he can't know exactly what's going on.

Either way, the best option for you is to just ask him if he would like to be in a relationship with you to see if you are the one. You need to put your fears behind you, if you really want to know. No one else can tell you how he's feeling but him.  

Answer 4

Value yourself, and stop sleeping with anyone including him.  If he is a real friend, he will accept the "Let's not do that anymore".  Save yourself for marriage, for your husband.  Your husband is the one who should matter not some head game playing fool who is using you for what he wants.