Is it possible to love two people...and what do I do about it?

Question

I know I've already asked a question like this, but this time it's different. Last time I said I loved the guy just because we'd been making out the night before, but now it's more than that. Him and I have a super special connection that I don't even have with my girlfriend, but I love my girlfriend so much and I don't want her to stop being my girlfriend. I also love the guy. It's so hard because sometimes I just feel like I wanna stop being with my girlfriend to be with him. How can I deal with this?

Answer 1

It is completely possible to love two people at once, a man, and a woman, I'm going through something of the same nature myself, and I'm finding it's really difficult to figure out, because in the end, someone's heart is going to be broken. I wish you all the best, and if you want to stop being with your girlfriend, maybe you should. Honesty is always the best policy, even when it sucks.

Answer 2

Coming from a bi man  this is a very hard thing to deal with.

I can love two at once, but am I willing to give it all to both?  I am very cautious as to how involved I am willing to let myself get with two at once.

My opinion is that it is too hard to deal with loving two at once.  Makes my head spin.  So I will love one and just have a nice physical arrangement with the other.  I depends on what you can give and handle.

Answer 3

you just seem to be wanting both at the same time.. you said it yourself.. "I wanna stop being with my girlfriend to be with him.".. seems like you're enjoying what you're getting on both sides and even though you know who you want more you're not willing to give up the other..  

Answer 4

Gosh! That's a really tough one!

The only thing that i feel like telling you is that you should meditate on the meaning of the verb "to love",make up your mind and ,if necessary, try to explain them the way you feel.

Personally,i dont believe it's possible to be truly in love with 2 different people; according to me (true)love is an all-absorbing experience........

Answer 5

The way I see this there's actually two questions:

Is it possible to love two people?

Is it possible to be romantically involved with two people at once?

The first question is an emphatic yes.  The second all depends on you and the two other people - if all of you are of the right temperament, it is possible to be in either a V or a triangle and work out quite nicely.  If any one isn't, it becomes hard to impossible, with the probability of severely hurt feelings all around.

With poly, it is imperative to be clear and open with your communication.  I'd even say more so than in a monogamous relationship (which is not to downplay communication and trust in monogamous couples!).

Answer 6

64% OF the population believe that it is possible to be in love with two peoople at the same time.  i am one of these.  your in a hard situation. there are no easy answers. but really who says you have to choose right now? straight men, being what they are...your boyfriend for instance...would probably be totally ok with the three of you being one happy trio...as long as he gets to be the meat in the sandwich...lol...what would your girl do if she were in your place? would she blow you off if some guy came along for her? theres a lot to think about here. BUT...sweetie...let this ride for now. you should be concentrating on starting your freshman year in highschool....all excited and butterflys in your tummy nervous....you are starting your final chapter of your childhood...highschool....the times you share here and the memories you make  during these coming four years will be with you always...you'll look back on these times as the best of your life..its gonna be a wonderfully wild ride with its ups and downs.,....i envy you sugar....what are you going to wear on the first day of school?