Is it possible to retain passion in a long term relationship?

Question

Is it possible for a couple to retain passion?

I understand that it will never be as strong or the same as the initial connection. Is there anyone out there in a long term relationship that can testify that passion can last in some amount after years of a relationship?

Answer 1

Yes.. But both parties have to make an effort at it. Cant put the load on the women and vice versa. There has to be communication, open ness with eachother, and most importantly you have to be open with yourself.

Know yourself, love yourself, dont be insecure with eachother... Those things can be a burden on the relationship and therefore prevent passion. So simply yes, just make sure both partners are making an effort together!

This is coming from a person that has been in a 7+ year relationship... Still trucking, we still have plenty of passion! Thank goodness!

Answer 2

Although I personally cannot attest to it, there are plenty.  This is the reason our society celebrates anniversaries and there are many who've reached their silver (25 yrs.) and golden (50 yrs.) anniversary's that would attest to life long love and "passion".  

Answer 3

Passion can last, its just for u to make it interesting and exciting. Ofcourse a guy is gonna get tired if u wear the same lingerie to bed everytime or have s*x in the same position or place all the time or make things routine. Keepin a relationship is hard work, therefore you need to do things that are exciting and not jus the same old routine thing, and at the same time dont exhaust all ur interesting stuff all at once... be spontaneous and surprise the other half every now and then, do sumn special for them and work to keep the passion bubbling

Answer 4

Yes, bit it does require a little more effort on both sides. We are married 15 years, have suffered many life crisis, including infidelity on his part and we still have amazing passion. It can happen, but you both have to want it.

Answer 5

11 years and I desire my wife more than I did at first.  The s*x gets better every year, the more we learn each others bodies and how to pleasure each other the better it gets.

My only complaint would be frequency!  I can't get enough of my wife!

Answer 6

We have been married for 17 years and are still very much in love and very attracted to one another.

The early years in a relationship are like a roaring fire. And like a fire, you must continue to add fuel, or it will die down and eventually go out. So your marriage may not be "roaring" all the time, but you can easily maintain a nice "glow". And by doing special things for one another, spending quality time together, being considerate of one another every day, you will throw "fuel" on that fire and make it flare up.

s*x starts at the breakfast table and continues throughout the day by being nice, considerate, thoughtful and loving towards one another all day long. Nothing kills attraction faster than taking each other for granted.

So make sure that your relationship is based on much more than lust. That type of attraction fades quickly. And you are left with cold, dead embers.

Have lots in common, have respect for one another, be friends, and treat each other with love and consideration and you will manage to keep things "hot" all throughout the years. Good luck!

Answer 7

The only long term couples I have ever seen that have passion are the ones that fight a lot.  Then they "make up" if you know what I mean.  LOL... JK, but there is some truth to that!!

Answer 8

Remember to TAKE IT SLOW! A long-term relationship is something to work towards, it is not just given to you. Just make sure that neither you, nor your partner is uncomfortable with any aspect of the relationship you are in and you'll be fine.

Answer 9

yes, you can have it, but you both have to be all ga ga for each other.  

Answer 10

Yep, just try new things(sexually,emotionally, physically) it make things fun.  

Answer 11

Love grows deep and quiet, but passion still rises from time to time.  I'm telecommuting today, and while the kids were in school, about 4 hours ago, we made love and had some of the best s*x we've had in several weeks.  It was passionate and exciting.  If that's TMI, so sorry!

Answer 12

Yes, it can last.  I will admit that at time in a relationship it can be difficult but if you step back and look at the person you love and all they do for you and how empty your life would be without them in it, it is easy to find that passion.  Yes, it is different from the one you had when you met but it is also in its own way stronger and longer lasting.