Is it possilble to completly fit into a new group of people?

Question

I want to start to join clubs at my college. I want to be a part of this group, but i have a feeling I may be too different than them. Is it possible to go into a club which is already filled with grouped off people, as a loner and make friends?

Answer 1

it realy depends on the kind of person you are

if you are extremly outgoing there is going to be no problem

but if you are quite shy it might

take a while for you to make friends

you dont have to be a loner

what if you take a friend with you

and you can join together

it just depends on your personality

whether or not people will respond to you

be positive, smile, and go out there

who nows mabe making new friens wont be so

difficult.

Answer 2

Good goal. Trial and error is the only way, i guess.

Answer 3

Of course you can!  I think it would help you to have some confidence.  It is difficult to accomplish anything when you are fighting yourself.  Sometimes being different is what makes you cool to hang out with.

For example, when I first started college I dressed pretty different from everyone else, I found it easier to make friends at that time than now where I look like everyone else.  Sometimes, I wish I could go back =]

Answer 4

Technically yes, in practice no. I just started high school with an entirely different group of kids who ALL went to the same middle school, and they're all very different from the kids at my middle school. I haven't done such a great job fitting in. I suppose if you're incredibly charismatic and the type of person who can make friends easily, it'll work, but very few people are like that. Unless you want a whole bunch of awkward moments sitting in on the edge of conversations and pretending you're involved, I'd advise against it.

Answer 5

its really possible to fit in in the group you desire, just stay yourself and be in a group that will accept you and that you feel accepted, eventhough it isn't the best ever! trust me feeling good with friends or group is important

Answer 6

its always possible to make new friends, and always possible to lose old ones, it might not be easy, but youll just have make friends with one of them, then another, and slowly, youll be accepted by them

Answer 7

Yes.  It takes time.

Answer 8

Re: being "too different"... I think you'd be surprised. Especially once you're out of high school, young adults are (in general) amazingly accepting of diverse looks and personalities, as long as you're pleasant, polite and not obnoxious.  You'll need to give it some time, however.  Just keep attending the group functions, be friendly, and people will eventually warm up to you.

Having said that, beware of the occasional group that has dysfunctional elements.  They do exist out there.  If you pick up a vibe of clique-ish behavior that makes you feel excluded on an ongoing basis, get out of there and join a different group. Good luck to you!

Answer 9

Yes. But you will have to mentally shake off your self-label of loner. Otherwise you will project this to others and they will not be receptive to you.

Answer 10

Yes smoke weed. Join the Stoners club.

Answer 11

Yes, it is possible.  College is a great place, you've left a lot of the high school drama behind.  You'll never know if you don't try.  Just go for it.

Answer 12

Yeah just don't act like a loner. Act like something desirable.

Answer 13

Try to be more outgoing and try to chat with people around, hopefully you'll find people that you can be friends...

Answer 14

yeah but it is better to be who you want to be trust me i have gone through this many years ago

Answer 15

It is possible for a person to join groups already in progress, but it takes time.  Be your best self, and others will accept you, but realize that, for a while, you will be the "odd man out".  Volanteer for activities that are good for the group, and do your best.  Ask for help when you need it.  And be willing to help others.

Good luck and may God bless you.

Answer 16

it definititely is possible to make friends with a joined off group of people at a club, especially a club because people are drinking.

it depends on how you go about the situation, and how you approach these people. It is always best to be urself and if they do not like you then it is there loss.

Answer 17

Yessssssss!  Be open minded, be aware of this different group of people reacts, see if you can connect with them in any way

Answer 18

In most cases you will not  fit intirly into a group...unless you and someone else  mack the group