Is it proper etiquette not to take a gift to a party held at a club?

Question

i went to an anniversary party at a club. we had to pay our own way in and buy our own drinks. the host provided the food. i noticed i was the only one who brought a gift. is it acceptable not to gift in situations where u are spending money?

Answer 1

I think gifts are optional at many events.

Answer 2

that was horribly declasse' of the host to make guests pay for entry & drinks.  at their party...(hope the invite included that little tidbit of information).  but I agree w/ the others--gift optional.

Answer 3

Gifts are always optional. It was nice of you to bring it.

Answer 4

how nice of you cecee to be the only one bringing a gift,however,next time you get an invite,call,ask questions about the whole event,if it was your parents' anniversary party,I'd say it was o.k.,I believe if you're invited to any event, you shouldn't have to spend ANY money,the spending should be in your discretion,or if need be,bring a date and let them pay or go dutch. Don't ever feel pressured from any invitation, if you do,then don't go.next time size up the situation,you will know from the feelings you get just thinking about it. believe me,the answers are within us all.

Answer 5

yes...gifts are optional...it was certainly polite of you to take one..but they were rude to have to make guests pay their own entry and drinks...some hosts...but good job in being polite! :)

Answer 6

It would not be expected - it's at a bar, not someones home - next time if you feel as though you should bring a gift, simply bring a nice card thanking them for inviting you and wishing them happy birthday...

Answer 7

Some will disagree but I think for an event such as this you should bring a gift even if it is at a club and you have to pay.  Its similar to when someone invites you over to their house for dinner.  You shouldn't show up empty handed or at least offer to bring something (wine is the easiest and best choice).  Having said that, bring a gift but dont go overboard.  Keep it simply and small but something that says I thought of you.  A bottle of wine works for this occasion too.  They can enjoy later in a private moment.