Is it really appropriate for kids to complain and fit at the store how could you bring your kid to the store?

Question

Is it really appropriate for kids to complain and fit at the store how could you bring your kid to the store?

Answer 1

No, but it's going to happen on ocassion, especially when they are toddlers and are in the learning process.  

This is why you take your child and leave (no matter what).  Otherwise, you are teaching them that it's okay to do so.

ETA: I am not referring to children with autism.

Answer 2

I know! I used to do that all the time and I regret it BIGTIME! I was actually called "A right little S**T!" in the middle of a store, and the ***** who called m one wasn't even my mother!  

Answer 3

No it is horrible when children throw fit at store. Parents must teach child manners and respect even at young age. Parenting is a responsibility many people take lightly. If children cannot behave they should not be taken to store.

Answer 4

now days it's a lot more difficult.  i have no problems out of my kids usually.  but society doesn't help.  how can i teach my kids to behave in public when i can't discipline them in public.  I spanked my son once for running into the road and a woman stopped to threaten me with child services.  it's getting rediculous.  if ppl really want kids to mind while in public, parents have to be able to punish them when they don't mind in public.

Answer 5

Life goes on, even when kids aren't behaving like we want them to.  Most kids will try to throw a fit in public, at least once. ;) It is inappropriate, so it's the parents' response that is important.  I'm not so much irritated with the child as I am the parent if they are not dealing with the situation.

Answer 6

Well, I have a child who sometimes complains and fits at the store.  She looks just like any other typical child, except she has autism.

Sometimes she just has a sensory overload moment and melts down.

Sometimes it was part of learning to cope with an unfamiliar environment.  She needs to have the experiences in order to learn to function in society.  Sheltering her and keeping her home do not teach her how to behave at the store, we have to actually go to the store.  Fortunately we go to the same grocery store quite often. All the checkers and employees at the store have known my daughter for years. They've watched her grow up and learn. They remember the early years where many a time I had to carry her out screaming.  They compliment me on how far she's come, how well she's doing.  

Yeah, it might be a bit inconvenient for other shoppers to hear her scream or whine. They probably think I'm an awful parent since she's almost 10, but sounds like a toddler when really upset.  

It's REALLY inconvenient for strangers to give me parenting advice like "she needs a good spanking" when they know nothing about our situation.

It would be really inconvenient for everyone else for her to have to be supported at taxpayer expense her whole life.  If I didn't work so hard to expose her to so many different things, and make her as independent as possible that could be the outcome.  I'm trying like the dickens to make sure that doesn't happen.  

Before you go judging a parent and their kid having a fit at the store, stop and think.  There's probably more to the situation than you know.  Remember, autism now supposedly affects 1-150 children.  

Answer 7

Well.  Do you have kids?  Did you ever think that these kids might not be throwing fits before they get to the store?  Did it cross your mind that parents need to get things done, regardless of how their children are acting?  I feel absolutely horrible for parents whose children throw fits in stores...it's embarrassing for the parents and there isn't much they can do about it, except leave the store, which means they didn't get to finish what that had come to the store for the begin with, which also means that they will have to re-run this errand at a later time.  Geez.  Have a little respect for fellow parents, it's not an easy job!

Yes, parents need to teach their kids to behave, but it doesn't ALWAYS work out perfectly.

Answer 8

No, it's not appropriate at all. And what's even worse it when you go out to eat to relax and you're sat next to a kid throwing a fit.. I always ask to be moved. Also, I hate to see parents slap or spank their kids in public... no only does that offend me, but it makes the fit worse, I think. I always say something to those parents.

Answer 9

I have two sons.  One is "typically developing" and the other has autism.  My "typically developing" son has never thrown a fit in the store that I can recall.  He is 8 years old.  My son with autism, who is 9 years old, has thrown numerous fits even recently.  Both of my boys look alike, speak alike and for the most part, behave similarly....but not always.  Is it appropriate when my son with autism has a fit in the store?  No.  But autism is about inappropriate behaviors.  That is why he has a behaviorist working with him over 40 hours per week.  But nobody knows that when we go to the store.  

Most of the time when I notice other parents giving me or my son one of "those looks" (and you parents of autistic children know what I'm talking about!), I will comment to them something like, "You gotta love autism!" and try to make light of it.  Then I usually get one of those sympathy looks and life goes on.  A few times, I have actually been told things like, "He doesn't look autistic." or "I thought autistic kids don't talk."  Yes, a lot of autistic children do talk...sometimes very loud and inappropriately too.

Please try to remember that everyone has their battles in life and I am sure the parents of these children are doing all they can to be good parents.

Answer 10

My kids never behaved badly in the store.  They would be in so much trouble.

My thought is if you can not control your child's behavior than don't bring them to the store.  I for one do not want to hear your child screaming and crying, and it is unfair to other shoppers.

If your child starts to throw a fit while you are at the store you should remove them from the store.  Take them out to the car until they calm down.  Yes you can ignore them but than every around you has to listen to it and that just isn't right.

Answer 11

It's not appropriate for the child complain or throw a fit, but it happens.  They are kids.  We as parents are supposed to teach them appropriate behavior.  It's also not appropriate for the parents to stand there and let the child continue with that behavior and believe that ignoring it will make it stop.  Discipline is important.