Is it really hard having three children??

Question

i have two little boys 17 months and 4 yrs old, they are wonderful! my husband wants one more, and part of me also does, but have seen other people out there with 3 children and it just seems chaotic and crzy! like it goes from hard to just insane?? what is your story with having 3 children, how has it affected your life differently??

Answer 1

To me it easier than the jump from 1 to 2.  I love having three kids.  As long as your okay financially then I say go for it.   I wish I could've had more.

Answer 2

I have three kids and it's really not that bad.  It just takes some adjustment as it does everytime you add a new member to your family.  If you and your husband both want a third, then go for it.  We're planning on having a fourth soon.  Good luck!

Edit: My kids are 8, 5, and 2 right now.

Answer 3

1. cost in raising child

2. Time to dedicate each child

3. Time to dedicate your spouse

4. Bills

5.School in the long run.

Concider if you are willing to compromise things now and in the coming.

Answer 4

I have 3 sons and raise my nephew so that's four and yes it gets crazy with the middle child syndrome going on and the sibling rivalry. however get a routine for the day, the week, the month and year. schedule your breakfast, lunch, dinners and snacks. set your boundaries on what you will and will allow and stick to it and have clear consequences and then lots and lots of communication. if you can do those things then you may have just extended gray growth for 10 more years.(joke) laugh lots and lots and lots.

and did I mention  to laugh!

Answer 5

we had 2 boys...1 daughter..NEVER had a problem..except the usual tiffs between kids..but they are all grown and very successful..and we loved (almost) every day of it..i even taught little league baseball for 11 yrs..my daughter played softball and volley ball..we  had some bad days..but i wouldnt change it for the world..

Answer 6

Yes, it's hard but so is having 1 child or 2 children.  It's all about balance, and routine with my kids.  If we stick to a basic schedule during the day things are great, if it's thrown way off then they get a little wild.  You have to make sure that as a parent you are capable of handling a third child. If your 4 year old listens to you fairly well when you tell them not to do things, then you are probably on track as far as setting rules and boundaries and the jump from 2 to 3 might not be as hard as you think, if you have two really unruly kids, I'd try to get them in check first.  A new baby is rough on kids sometimes and if they already feel like life is chaotic then it might just make it worse.  Make sure your family is ready for a 3rd.  If all signs point to yes, go for it, the more the merrier.  Mine are 8 years old 3 years old and the youngest will be 2 in November.  It's all about routine, up at about the same time, breakfast at about the same time, off to school and napping and lunch and whatnot, try to take the guesswork out of it for them.  If they know what to expect next it's not usually a fight.  With my oldest rewards for behaving and being patient when the younger one needs something is always good.  Chores, and such.  Yours is only 4 so a simple chore would be helping you clean up his/her toys, or helping put napkins on the table for dinner, help wipe the table down after dinner, nothing over their head.  They feel like a big helper and you're teaching them to be a bit more independant for when the baby comes.  Good luck...

Answer 7

I have 3 sons and i love the chaos, as hard as it is. Mine are aged almost 12, 8 and 19 months. Everything takes military planning, from going out for the day down to just breakfast. I already have Christmas planned (where we're going, when, etc) because if i leave it to last minute then we can't get everywhere!

But I love it, every minute of it. I've always thrived on chaos anyway so having 3 tornados to look after seems natural...And yes, i want another one!

Answer 8

I've seen families with 10 kids who were fine and families with 1 child who were out of control.

A lot of this has to do with the specific kids involved and the skills of the parents.

All the best.

Answer 9

I do not have 3 kids, but I kind of do in a sense, as my niece (who is 22 months) is in my care pretty much 24/7 plus I have 4 1/2 year old twins.  And well I will soon be adding another, as I am 23 weeks pregnant.  But I don't think it is too crazy, some days are better than others. And yeah it is a little harder than having just two.  

Answer 10

If you want three kids go for it and when you think that things are getting to crazy watch jon and kate plus 8. I only have 2 kids but want more and when I think my life is crazy I watch that show then think to myself if she can do it with 8 then I can do it with 3:)  i am sure that 3 will be harder, you go from having 1 per parent to being out numbered.  If you can handle your 2 then I am sure the adjustment to 3 will be ok.  Good Luck

p.s. all the responsiblities you have with 2 you will still have with 3, whats one more:)

Answer 11

I have three, mostly grown now.  I think it was the perfect number.  Things were chaotic and crazy already with two, so #3 didn't really make that much difference in the organization of our household.  Of course, each one costs more and takes away a little bit from the others.  But each one adds more to our adventures in parenting. We had an extra chance to give birth, enjoy all the stages of development, and admire their talents. They have three distinct personalities, which makes life interesting.  

Honestly, the biggest thing I noticed was that everything comes in twos and fours (buy one-get one free, cars that only have room for two in the back seat, packages of four snacks, maximum of four people per hotel room...etc.).  Having three kids or a family of five never quite fits.  But that's a pretty minor complaint.

I'd say go for # 3.  You might regret it more if you don't.

Answer 12

It's not just about the number of children, it's how they get along with each other. With number 3, it makes it harder, there will always be one odd one out, one to gang up on, one who gets to be with mummy and hold her hand and that sort of scenario.

You need to think about bedrooms, car space, amount of shopping, luggage space and all that palaver.

The mums of 3 that I know are barking.

They can keep 2 under control and in their sights, but not the third!!

Have 2 and keep your sanity.