Is it really so bad being an only child?

Question

I have one little girl. i love her so much and me and my husband can give her all the love and attention that she needs. she is a very outgoing little girl from being in nursery since she was young and she has lots of cousins who she sees regularly but recently alot of people have been asking me if i will ever have another one seeing as my daughter is now four, surely we're not going to leave her on her own. we have thought about this obviously but it isn't really something that we have decided on. i'm not an only child, i have a big family and so does my husband so i don't really know what it is like to be an only child but i didn't think it would be all that bad for my daughter if she was on her own but lately i'm kinda regretting not having a sister or brother for her sooner and i feel that maybe i am being selfish. i am only in my early thirties so hopefully there wouldn't be any problems if i did decide to have another baby. do any only children out there hate the fact that they are only children and will it be very lonely for my daughter when she grows up not having any brother or siter? thanks

Answer 1

i've heard adult only children say that it was hard on them when their parents got old and sick and the responsibility fell on them

i have an friend who's 30 and an only child and she LOVED it...she had everything she needed and most of what she wanted...has never had anything bad to say about it...she's very outgoing, not shy, not afraid to ask questions to get to know people...though she's not very good at compromise and has to have everything her way :(

Answer 2

I'm an only child and I don't like it. I'd give anything I had to have a little brother or sister.

Answer 3

It's lovely having the company of a sibling but it's your decision at the end of the day because it will be in your womb , And no it's not too late me and my siblings have at least 4 years between us . Good luck in whatever your decision.

Answer 4

I am an only child and i cannot tell you how looking back, I really wish i wasn't. Yes, you can give all of your attentiona dn affection to one, but that one has no one to share it with. I have always envied my friends with brothers and sisters and the bond they have. a friend can never measure to the love you ahve for a sibling.  

Answer 5

I have no brothers and sisters, Well it can be hard sometimes in the sense that you are always in your own company, it can be very lonely. Personally I don't think I'd want a brother and a sister now(as I am very much my own person) but a few years back I wanted one, definately. I spose it depends if you work a lot if you dont then there isn't a problem.

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Answer 7

I know friends growing up who were an only child always wished they had siblings. I believe it is better for the child to have siblings personally. I would try to have another if i were you. of course they will have friends, but there is nothing like the bond between siblings that will last forever. Sometimes only children become spoiled, so be careful not to give her everything she wants and thinks that is how the world works because it will damage her when she is off on her own in the real world.

Answer 8

Larger families tend to be happier.

Answer 9

You know what?  Everyone seems to want something they don't have, for example, a girl with straight hair wishes it was curly and the curly haired girl wishes her hair was straight.  So your daughter probably will wish she had siblings, sometimes.  Since she has so many cousins and friends, there's not a problem of needing to socialize her, so she will be fine if you don't have any more children.  You should talk to your daughter (and hubby of course) about your concerns.  Ask her, "Do you ever wish you had a baby brother or sister?  Do you like not having other kids in the house that will get into your toys?"  There are pros and cons to having another kid for your family, so consider those with your family and don't worry too much about popular opinion.  Here's a thought:  child psychologists said that it's good to have children within a year and a half of each other.  In my family and in every family I've met, children who are close in age FIGHT!  I like that my kids are 6 years apart because one is in school, the other is home; one is in diapers, the other isn't; one can read books, the other can listen...      

Answer 10

bein an only child can be gr8 with all the luv n attention but it can get borin with no one 2 play with or 2 seek help frm or to look after when ur older !

Answer 11

I love being an only child, all the love, all the attention. Its perfect!

Answer 12

i think that being an only child is fine when young but i know that i always would have loved to have a brother/sister when i was growing up...i thank that the reason that people ask if you are having other kids is b/c they are from big family's with me husband he has 12 brother/sisters and everyone on his family is saying we need a lot of more kids  

Answer 13

I had two older brothers who were six and nine years older than me growing up, and I was soooo lonely!  They were never around.  Of course, more important than giving your daughter a sibling is to love her and give her attention, which you already do.  That is the most imp thing.

Answer 14

its depends on how you raise the child. Nobody likes a spoiled brat

Answer 15

it's entirely up to you. I'd say it definitely helps having lots of cousins - my daughter is the only grandchild on both sides and we're having a second to stop #1 being so bloody spoiled! As long as she spends plenty of time with other kids and isn't being spoiled by you, her dad and the rest of both your families, then there's nothing that says you have to have a second child.

Tell all those nosy gits who keep telling you to have another to kindly p*** off and mind their own sodding business!

Nothing worse than people like that - I was getting those comments when my little one was barely 6 months old.