Is it really that weird that I prefer being alone?

Question

Today my mom said that its not normal that I am always alone and that everybody needs people. The thing is though, I really prefer being alone then hanging out with people most of the time. I used to have lots of friends in jr high and then once I hit high school I had less friends, and now that I am in college I just have a few people that like I will go to movies and stuff with, but don't really hang out with them alot. I am perfectly happy doing things on my own and really don't like crave companionship like my mom seems to think everyone does. I go to school and I have jobs, so its not like I am not around people, but for the most part I like being alone, is that really that bad/wrong? I have never been super close with anyone and I have always just kept things to myself, whereas my mom is the type of person that needs everyone to know every detail of her life and needs to be around people, is it that she just doesn't understand that some people are fine all on their own?

Answer 1

I'm the same way. I don't need people to define who I am. I have a better time entertaining myself a lot. I do have children and a partner, but far as female friends and hanging out I was more of a non-social person.

I think it's normal. Maybe it's just you haven't met people that stimulate you to the degree you wish to be stimulated. ;)

Answer 2

I am you, honey.  I think we are both okay.

Answer 3

Ask her why she needs so much attention.  Everyone is different.  If you're not hurting yourself or anyone else why does she care?  I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.

Answer 4

No. i'm same way. i like partying sometimes though.

Answer 5

I'm more like you.

I like just chilling by myself more, relaxing, just spending time working on my photography and reading the bible.

I know that others may find it wierd, but is that really important?

Its your life and you get to spend it which ever way is most important or comfortable to you. If you like doing stuff on your own, then go ahead. : ) God bless.  

Answer 6

Sounds like you are a very leveled headed person. You are self-sufficient and socially active. It appears that your mother is the one out of balance. She is needy and is always seeking the approval of others. Continue being your own person. You appear to be very satisfied with yourself.  

Answer 7

its not weird just need one good friend thats it  

Answer 8

No it's not weird :] It's fine

I'm the same way

We just prefer the solitude over companionship

Answer 9

Maybe, u don't like hangin out with friends u don't like or know, or they're not ur type

Answer 10

Of course not. Likewise, I had tonsss of friends in middle school, but I lost some along the way because we just split for some reason. I'm in high school now and I have several friends, but I prefer not to get to together with them usually. I think it's perfectly normal to like being alone vs. being around all your friends. Time for yourself is awesome, plus I think you can do so much more when you're not with your friends that you couldn't do if you were with them (not to be mean to friends, but there's just some things you wouldn't do when they were around). Hope that helped (:

Answer 11

There are a lot of people who are terrified of being alone, and need to fill their lives with a lot of superficial relationships. I think it's great you are so comfortable with yourself, and with being solitary. There is nothing wrong with you. People are just different.  

Answer 12

I don't mind being alone either. I have 2 jobs and so time to myself is rare and I enjoy it. A person doesn't need more than a few close friends. There really isn't time to develop a close relationship with lots of friends. You sound well adjusted to me.

Answer 13

Aloneness can also be apart of your starsign, there is one particular sign, I'm not sure which one.

I've been alone all my life, I've had people come and go from my life all the time, I've had one best friend for 8 years and we've been separated for 2 years, I don't have any physical friends around me right now and I am quite fine.

Its definitely not abnormal to be alone, we all are different and if we were all the same, it wouldn't be an interesting world.

Answer 14

you are absolutely fine! it's ust yoru personality, as long as you are happy, that is the most important thing. if you don't need people to be happy, then that's fine. Clearly your mom does and she thinks that without people, one couldn't be happy, u kno? its just how you roll. To each his (or her) own

Answer 15

As long as your happy and not depressed I don't see anything wrong with it.