Is it really true that every pregancy is differnet?

Question

Talking about having another child with the Hubby, timing is right, would love to have another one....

However, my first pregnancy was h**l.... if it could go wrong it did.

(well thats not true, neither me or the child died but it was close for both of us)

I am scared to go though this again, everyone keeps telling me that each pregnancy is different and the second is easier. Is this true?

Answer 1

Yes!  They are all different!  Talk to your doctor BEFORE you start ttc.  Your dr will be able to get you started on the right path for baby #2!!

Answer 2

That is so dependant on the woman. Each of my pregnancies have been different in some ways and similar in others. I have a friend however who is on Baby #4 and with every single one experienced extreme vomitting from morning sickness for over 6 weeks each time- this never 'got better' with each baby.

If you are really worried about it and the anxiety is strong enough, contact your OB. S/he can shed some light on your individual situation (i.e. maybe you had some flukey things that aren't likely to happen or perhaps there's something in your body that medically makes pregnancy difficult) and offer some suggestions to help you make your decision.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

I am about to have my 4th boy and yes each one was different, down to the way I carried them. My oldest normal enough some sickness but I was alway tired, my second was a by the book baby if it said this is when sickness stoped it did and he was too easy. My third however was hard I went into preterm labor and ended up on bed rest for most of it, when I had him I couldn't get anything for pain because my heart rate dropped with every contraction I had  so it was to risky (luckly he came quick). With this one  there are days I don't  even feel pregnant well other than the kicking   lol. I had a little morning sickness at first but thats about it.

If you want another baby then do it, trust me even if its hard you won't regret it. Good luck I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Each pregnancy IS different, but it all depends on what went wrong with YOU.  If you had significant kidney or heart problems during the first pregnancy, you may very well have them again.  If you had GD, you will likely have it again. If you had absolutely, horrible and mind numbing morning sickness, it is possible that you will have it again, but only about 50/50.  If you had pregnancy induced hypertension, again, lower chance that you will have it again, but you may very well have it.

Your best bet is to have a pre-pregnancy discussion with your gyn.

Answer 5

*Laughs hysterically* Yes, they are all very different. I'm on our 4th (and last) and I've always joked that my kids leave a list inside my uterus so the next child knows what the previous ones have done and can try something different. They've all been so very different. The only thing all my kids did was to stay head down. Otherwise, its all up for grabs!

My sister's 2nd has been different than her first. She has health issues, so both have been rough, but so far the second hasn't been as rough on her body as the first. She has pretty much decided, though, that they will stop at 2 and not go for the 3rd they wanted. I hate that for her, but she has to come off her medicine during the pregnancy and its a health risk for her.

Answer 6

My second pregnancy was worse than my first,but then again with my first the only symptoms I had was the big belly and a baby afterwards. With my second,the cord was wrapped around her neck so she was almost 2 weeks overdue,her heart rate kept dropping as well as mine did when in labor,and she came out blue and swallowed some fluid on the way out. Also I had EVERY symptom in the book when I was pregnant with my second daughter. With this pregnancy(my third) it is sort of in between both previous pregnancies...I had slight morning sickness...I eat like crazy...and my belly looks about 8 months pregnant and I'm only 6 months along..so yes every pregnancy is different..even when they are so close to being the same that its scary there are still little differences with each

Answer 7

I am in the same state of mind as you... My pregnancy was awful, i puked from the time i was 2 months til the day i had my son at 35 weeks. I had pre-eclampsia.. Went into labor at 33 weeks which was stopped then again at 35 which could not be stopped. I was so swollen in my face, feet and hands. It was awful.

I am scared to death to have another kid. My son is now almost 7 years old.

(I was pregnant in 2005 but i miscarried at 5 weeks which makes me believe that i am only meant to have one kid)

They say no two pregnancies are alike, maybe they aren't but no one will know until they try but it is hard too when you think omg it will be like how it was when i was pregnant with my first....

Good luck to you on deciding......I figured i would have another one by now but i am too scared.. I wanted to have another by the time i am 30...I am almost 29 and it just aint looking like i will have another one.

Answer 8

I think it is true.  Though I only have one child.  I would talk to your OB about it and find out what they think.  They could tell you if it would be a risky pregnancy.

Answer 9

Well, I have a 2 yr old and I'm 31wks pregnant now. This time around it has been a bit easier just because I know what to expect. However, the first 3 months were still hellish cuz of the horrible morning sickness..and now I'm starting to have back pain..but because I've been through this all before, it is a little easier. I would say if you want another, just go for it. I'm sorry to hear that your first pregnancy was so rough, maybe this time around it'll be better? Just think of the outcome though. Every pregnancy is scary but you'll make it through it and have something beautiful in your life for all your years to come. Hope this helped? God bless.

Answer 10

It really is. My first was a breeze and I had a boy. The second was h**l. I thought for sure the baby was a girl because it was SO different. I had another boy. It was like night and day.