Is it really unfair to a 10 year old child to have a 50 year old mom?

Question

you know bullying at school? what a mom should do?

Answer 1

Heavens, it's not as if 50 is on their deathbed.  Most 50-year-olds are active and are as likely to be just as great, energetic parents to a 10-year-old as 30- or 40-year-olds.  And I agree I can't really see any kids bullying about it or even knowing or caring how old the parents are.

Answer 2

My mom was 43 when she had me. That made her 53 when I was 10 years old. She was always the oldest mother at school or ball games. I was never teased about it. A few waitress (not knowing) thought she was my grandma. But it didn't bother us. I was her miracle child. She thought she was going through the change of life and surprise it was ME>

My mom was a trooper she would even play in mother/daughter ballgames. My nephew (who was a year younger then me) would run the bases for her.

Answer 3

I would say no. Given the alternative of not being born at all. If that is the worst the kid has to grow up fearing, then that kid is gonna do alright!

Answer 4

no it  not unfair! children with parents any age are very lucky! i have 5 kids of my own my oldest is 13 when we go to his school my mom usually goes with us and everyone thinks that she is his mom and nobody seems to mind. i have a problem with it sometimes because i can easily pass for a student, so i don't get very much respect because i look like a kid myself. and when i was a kid going to school i was proud of my parents no matter what!

Answer 5

Kids bully for all sorts of reasons. I wouldn't let being an older mom be an issue. No matter the mother's age, all kids need to be taught not to bully and how to deal with bullies when they face them.

(I'll be 49 when my youngest is 10. It's really not a big deal.)

Answer 6

Are you saying a mom who's fifty can't parent. I know plenty of parents of any age that are neglectful to their kid, I don't think age should be a factor in ones parenting skills.

Answer 7

Bullying because you are 50? Where do you live that kids would bully overt the age of a mom. Most kids don't notice the age difference. I'm 43 with a 10 month old, which isn't uncommon these days. I don't look it. I'm healthy and active, why would this be unfair to a child when he is ten.

Answer 8

Ask yourself if you would have been better off not having been born.  That's really the point.  Anyone can be a good mother if they make that their most important job in life.  Alas, so many have other priorities.

It's better to have an old mother than no mother.  And 50 isn't old anyway.

Answer 9

bullying is illegal.  contact the school district and police.

Answer 10

Children are picked on by other children for being different.  Having a mom that old is different and will get noticed by the childs peers.  My son is in kindergarten and one of the other parents is older (41yrs old) and kids make comments.  Also my dad was 38 when my youngest sib was born and comments were made all through school even graduation.  Is this the first you have noticed that you are much much older than everybody around you?  I am an older mom (35 yrs.  kids are 7,2,1)and I am very conscious that I am a few years older than most parents picking up there kids from school.  IF you don't feel that it is unfair for you then its right for you.  Your child has his/her own opinion on that.  My dad felt 38 was too old.  My mom felt 30 was too old.  As of right now I don't think 34 was too old for me.

Answer 11

I think its unfair. My grandfather had an accident baby with his second wife. He was in his 60's and dead before she even reached 10.

If the parent takes good care of themselves, I could see it being ok. Nowdays people start dying around 55-60 unless they take good care of themselves. I couldn't imagine my child being 20 and having to cope with a 60 year old parent that had just died. Or having to care for me in her home and raise kids at the same time. At a certain age its time to stop.

Answer 12

I guess no one has told you that 50 is the new 30!

There are MANY parents of 10-year-olds today who are quite a bit older than in previous generations.  This is especially true because many people divorce, remarry, and have children with their second spouse.   Others spend many years building their careers before taking time off to have children, and are in their 40s by the time they do so.   I can't imagine a child being bullied because his mom is 50.   He's far from alone!

Answer 13

HMMMMM I'll be 50 when my youngest is 11...do I think it will be "unfair"?  Nope....My mother was in her mid 50s when I reached puberty (I was about 9),  My dad was in his mid 60s.  Nope it wasn't "unfair".  Kids are teased in school all the time.  What a mom should do is allow the child to take care of it.

Answer 14

ummmm no

i am offended my moms 48 and i am 11

Answer 15

There are good parents and bad parents no matter how old they are.  50 is not so old anymore.  You can explain to your child that sometimes kids can be mean and take out their anger on others because of their own issues or problems they are having (in simpler terms of course).  Told my 7 yr old this when she was being teased and it really helped so now she doesn't take the bullying to heart.  Loving your child is the only REALLY important factor and if a parent is older and in poor health they should just make sure to have a secure plan for their child "just in case" as any parent should.

Answer 16

its not unfair but may be she shy because her

friends parents are younger it doenst matter how old you are to parent

a child...have a talk and see if she is emberresed ...GOODLUCK

Answer 17

,As a child of an older parent it is embarrassing in your teen years when you play sports or do activities cause your friends parents are all the same age and you are the odd ball. But as a parent myself I see that older well more mature parents have much more patience and time to spend ,your career is stable your life is pretty much set.

Answer 18

not if said mom is a loving caring one, tell her you have character and that you are smarter

Answer 19

nah no problem at all most kids dont even care