Is it really wrong of me to be on here while my kids are sleeping/napping/out?

Question

Okay, I just got an e-mail saying that I was a "horrible mom" because

I was on Yahoo "so much". I have Yahoo already set up on the laptop that's kept in the kitchen. So when I'm making lunch and waiting for something to finish, I will answer a couple questions. I also will check a couple questions while my kids are napping, going to bed, or still sleeping in the morning. I don't see a problem with it. How about you?

Answer 1

Nope, although given how much work kids can be, I'm just surprised you're on here while your kids are napping instead of napping yourself... heck, I don't have kids at all and I still need my naptime!

Answer 2

I get on here while my boys are sleeping or if they are spending time with someone else or sometimes they are just watching a movie so I get a free moment to myself so I get online.  It isn't a big deal and no it doesn't make you a horrible mom.  

Answer 3

Sites like Y!A are the only things that keep me sane sometimes!

I love my girls to death, but they're exhausting, so its good to come on places like here and talk to other parents going through the same stuff.

I do the exact same thing. If the girls are playing quietly or watching a video or having "quiet time" (they've just turned 3 and already stopped napping!) I'll bring my laptop to where I can watch them and go online. I see nothing wrong with it as long as you can keep an eye on the kids at the same time

Answer 4

No problem.

Answer 5

I don't anything wrong with it.  I spend a lot of time on Yahoo Answers myself.  My kids (teenagers) are off with their friends during the day, sleeping at night (or sleeping out, like tonight).  My husband works at night and sleeps all day, and I'm a SAHM who lives in an area where few people speak the same language as me, I need the internet to keep some sort of contact with the outside world.  

It takes me 5 minutes to check YA and respond to a few questions and I'll admit I do it many times during the day, in between cooking, loads of laundry, brushing the cats, washing floors, running errands etc.  The computer is in my living room and always on.  

Next week they go back to school and I'm going to have even more time to spend on YA.

As long as the kids aren't tugging at your pant leg and suffering from neglect then carry on I say....carry on.  I'm sure (or at least I'd hope) you don't ignore your kids just to be here.

Answer 6

Is your mom checking in on you?  You know if your a good mom and just because your a mom doesn't mean life stops for you.  Don't study it and love them kids!

Answer 7

I think what you do with your free time is your business.  If the kids aren't in need of parenting at that moment, then how are you being a horrible mom?  What do they expect you to do, hover over the kids until someone needs help?  Please. I'm getting aggravated with your email-er and I don't even know you!

Answer 8

Well if your a horrible mother, so I am!  I do the exact same thing.

Answer 9

All us bad mom's are gonna burn in HE## !!!

What do they want us to do in our few moments of spare time?  

Answer 10

sounds like someone just has nothing better to do with their day, apparently they are  on here at least as much as you are to know how often you are here.

dont worry about what anyone else thinks, when they are there taking care of the kids and house THEN let them dictate how often you come online

Answer 11

Your a mum of 5! If someone thinks doing something you enjoy (that doesnt hurt anyone) while your children dont need you makes you horrible then let them think that! Your doing nothing wrong!  

Answer 12

i dont see any problems with it - while my daughter is napping - im online,and when dinner is cooking I will check out some questions and respond to a few as well

nothing wrong with it

dont listen to who ever sent you those emails - they are probably jealous because they cant manage it like you can

Answer 13

Hello Mom of Five Girls...I'm a mom of three girls!  The bottom line is:  How do you want to spend your free time?  If you enjoy being on the computer and helping others with their questions, that's YOUR prerogative.  If you are truly not taking away time from your children to be on here, then you have nothing to be guilty about.  I'm online nearly everyday, but when I am, my girls are always sleeping or being entertained by their aunts.  I would suggest removing your email as an option to get in contact with you if the hate mail continues.

Answer 14

Not a problem at all. I'm on the computer alot. There's no reason why I can't be on the computer while my 9 month old is on the floor exploring and learning to crawl and my 3 year old is in his room playing with his blocks. I'm still watching them. I don't know why some parents are so anal about some things. It's not like you are on the computer while your children are running a muck down the street!! We all need our "me time" and mine is the computer.  

Answer 15

I have 2 kids and I don't see a problem. I am on the computer after they are put to bed or if someone else is watching them.

Answer 16

do you really care what random strangers think of you? i love getting hate mail! i know what i am and don't care what others think...that's the great thing about anonymity on the internet.

Answer 17

no i dont see the problem as long as your taking care of them right which i am sure you are dont listen to that stuff just do what you think is right