Is it reasonable for a wife to email a male friend occasionally?

Question

Nothing "personal" but general things , like jokes or links to cool websites. I don't see a problem, but I don't want anyone's spouse to get the wrong impression, including my own. Thanks.

Answer 1

As long as both spouse's know about it then I don't see a problem.

Answer 2

Emails are fun...and dangerous...the last thing you want is the recipient getting the wrong impression...that there is something there that isn't.  It has happened to me and it led to sneaky emails by my spouse and then texting and then calling...and...you know.

Answer 3

I think it's fine, if they are "just friends."

Answer 4

i wouldn't have a problem with that.  the emails are obviously platonic in nature, so what would be the big deal?

Answer 5

Why is this a big deal?  If you're all friends you shouldn't be shook up about emailing him.  Unless you may have underlying ulterior motives on a let's see basis.  

Email is email forwarding whatever.  If you're not chatting personal c**p then what's the big deal?  

Like I said, if you're asking permission to do a let's see basis, then you need to talk to your husband you all may have issues.  If it's something you wouldn't do without your husbands knowledge.  it's wrong.

Answer 6

How would your husband feel about it is whats important.

Answer 7

I guess if he is only a friend and that your husband knows about it and is okay

BUT

ask yourself if you would be happy if your husband was emailing a female friend of his?  

Answer 8

I have male friends I've emailed. I've done it right in front of my husband and he doesn't have a problem with it. We have a secure and trusting marriage.

I would NEVER write anything I wouldn't want my husband to read. My husband also have female friends that he talks to and emails.  

Answer 9

As long as both spouses know about the emails & are free to read them if they want to, why not? My husband & I emails others all the time - usually with the silly little jokes or whatever it is that's going around. The only time it would be a problem is if you were emailing someone & NOT telling your spouse about it. It's not the emails that cause problems for some people -it's the secrecy or the inappropriate content.

Answer 10

I think it's completely normal. But it really depends on what your spouse thinks, although if he doesn't accept this, he's probably a bit too jealous for a guy.

Answer 11

They will get the wrong impression. This is their husband.  Find your own man to send jokes and links.

Answer 12

as long as it's not an every day thing. b/c feelings might start to develop without you realizing it.

Do you like this guy more then a friend??

And do you get excited around him or when you get a text from him??

It all depends on you, how you feel about it. Don't let it get too far!!

Answer 13

If it's innocent, why not?

Answer 14

Look- nobody is laughing at those jokes. Nobody likes those chain e-mails with the pictures of babies and their bottoms and angels making kissy faces.  They're silly and a waste of time.  That being said- it's perfectly acceptable to keep a huge address book and forward them on to your poor unsuspecting friends.

Answer 15

I’m on the fence here because our rule of thumb in our marriage is that whatever female friend of my husband’s is a friend of mine and vice versa. We’re a married couple and while we’re allowed to have our own space, our own friends, it’d be misleading and I’d get a wrong impression if my husband was emailing and speaking with someone of the opposite s*x that I’ve never even heard mentioned before. However, I also feel that emailing jokes is rather innocent, but it can also START as emailing and very quickly and unexpectedly turn into something more.

Tread carefully….