Is it ridiculous to have an actual wedding after Three years of marriage?

Question

We got married when we were stationed overseas with no one present but the people in the US embassy. We are both in the military and havent had a chance to have an actual wedding. We were also waiting to get my communion and confermation done so we can have a catholic church wedding. Is this ridiculous or not?

Answer 1

Regardless of the circumstances, you HAD an actual wedding.

I'm not Catholic but I beleive that, in the eyes of the church, you are not yet married so you will need a ceremony to achieve that.  If you have a reception to go along with it, nobody's business but your own.

Have fun!

Answer 2

Yes. But you can have a blessing done in the Catholic church, then have a little anniversary party sometime!

Answer 3

My (now husband) and I are doing the same thing. He's going into the army, so we had a civil ceremony last week. We are still planning on having a real church ceremony next year. I'd say go for it! It's your life and you should be 100% happy with it

Answer 4

A wedding, yes, that would be silly. But a blessing of your marriage is fine.

Answer 5

NO, i don't think its ridiculous

just enjoy it

Answer 6

Not at all.

Answer 7

You DID have an actual wedding-it was in the embassy; you were married at that time.

However, if you wish to have a religious ceremony, there is nothing wrong with that.  I wouldn't get extravant about it, though, but that's me.

Answer 8

In your case i would say go for it. For anyone else I would hold off and just have a nice party for the 10th anniversay.

Answer 9

h**l no wear a white dress and b Madonna 4 the nite

Answer 10

Not ridiculous. The Catholic Church will not call it the Sacrament of Marriage though. It would be along the lines of bringing the marriage into the church. I'm not sure what is different in the mass.

You should be able to go through RCIA to become Catholic. But you do not have to be Catholic to have a wedding in the Catholic Church unless you want a full mass.  

Answer 11

go for it. not ridiculous at all. Thanks for serving our country!!!

Answer 12

I think so.  doing a vow renewal with family and friends keeping it low-key (no white dress, no wedding party, no gifts) is fine, but to have a new wedding is too much.  you only get one wedding to that person.  your wedding was your choice and you cant go back on that just because it wasnt the big hoopla people are having these days.  doing it over is going to make the marriage better, it isnt going to make you more married, all its going to do is possible satisfy a need to have others make a big deal over you and get dressed up.  I would have a nice renewal if you want to, but not a new wedding.

Answer 13

No it's not ridiculous at all. Your going for a church blessing. I have a few family members that married in a civil ceremony, then later had a church blessing. All three of them are married to or in the military. Im a miliary wife myself, and I know what you mean about planning a wedding in a short period of time. It was TOUGH! I wish you much joy.

Good luck to you. :)

Answer 14

Sorry...you are not a bride and groom so you cannot have a wedding!

You CAN have a blessing of your marriage and I believe it can be much like a wedding but you will have to check with the Catholic Church on that.

You can walk down the aisle but as no one is giving you away it makes the most sense for you and your husband to walk in together.

You CAN wear a very nice dress -- even a white one. But not a huge foufy one and not with a veil.

You CAN each have an attendant stand up with you but five or six bridesmaids would not be cool. And they would not be bridesmaids. You really could not do a line of women in matchy matchy dresses but if you wanted a party of women you could do like Jenna Bush and have a ''house party'' of women and they could choose their own appropriate dresses.

You CAN have a party of just about any formality or size you would want. You CAN have a gorgeous cake as long as it does not have a bride and groom figurine on top. You can have a spotlight dance together as long as it is not a bridal dance but just a dance for ''Hank and Melissa."

You CAN have a champagne toast but not to The Bride and Groom but to "Hank and Melissa" (whatever your names are) on the blessing of their vows.

You should avoid tossing the garter and bouquet and any money dances or other strictly wedding things.

You CAN have a pre-ceremony party: brunch; luncheon; dinner party; beer and appetizers; whatever. As long as it is not a bridal shower or bachelorette because you are not a bride and neither of you is a bachelor.

You CAN have a destination renewal if you want or go on a trip afterward. You can even tell the hotel when you book that you will be on your honeymoon -- at last -- and stay in a special suite etc.

So...no, unfortunately you cannot have a wedding when you are already married but you can have your vows blessed in the church and have many of the fun elements of a wedding without being a bride. You were a bride that day at the embassy -- for better or worse.

Best wishes!

Answer 15

Definitely not ridiculous.

It's even more romantic

that you still love each other so much

that you want to relive that day but this time

with family and friends :).

Answer 16

My nephew and his wife did just that.  He was deployed and they married in a civil ceremony before he left.  After his return, they started saving for their future and they both wanted a religious ceremony and wedding reception so they saved for that for about two years.  It was beautiful and everyone loved it.  Congratulations!!  Have fun with it!

Answer 17

NO, its not ridiculous .. if you have an actual wedding it gives the chance for your friends and family to get together and celebrate your holy union.. plus you get a whole bunch of gifts!!! but my cousin got married at the mayors office and i was soo dissapointed because i didnt get to go.. i dont even know who his wife is! So i think you should have the big wedding(or small) just so your friends and family can celebrate you... and you will have a great memory.. or you could just think of it like your renewing your vows.. like 3 years and still in love!!!

hope i helped

Answer 18

No its not ridiculous! my husband and me were both active duty as well and didnt have anyone around when we got married at the justice of the peace... but now 2 years later, i'm out of AD and we're finally having our church ceremony in december! Don't miss out on the chance to be a bride!! GOOD LUCK!!

ps.

i have no idea what amyhpete is talking about. my husband and me are getting married in a catholic church and we are doing everything amyhpete said we could not, including wearing a veil, having my dad give me away and having 5 bridesmaids =]

Answer 19

You're being ridiculous for asking! Sweetheart there is never a bad time to celebrate with family and friends. i say do it