Is it right for a 20 year old guy to marry a 40 year old women if they love each other?

Question

The couple have been dating for over a year and half.

Love each other

Answer 1

I would wonder about the maturity level of the 40 year old.  It's not so common for a 40 year old woman to be interested in a man that young for anything long term.  They are typically on totally different levels.  Beyond that... sure.  It would have a 50/50 chance just like any other marriage today does.

Answer 2

Once the guy turns 21 he is considered an adult and can do what ever he wants.  Good luck.

Answer 3

If it works for them. That is great. There is no one keeping score. There is not enough love in this country so go for it.

Answer 4

Let's reverse it and look at how 40-50 year old males marry 18-20 somethings. When a guy does it, its cool, high fives, a woman does it, she is a s**t and a w***e, a dirty old woman. Hey, I call it like I see it. If the guy understands all that goes with marrying an older woman, long term, not short term, is mature enough to deal with it, the outside comments from people, is indeed marrying her for the right reasons, not just money or security, s*x, it stands a maybe chance of success. Long term? I do'nt see it realistically. If he was older, and she was in her 40's I think it would be a better chance of making it. This? Its infatuation. Guys that age are still deciding what they want, chasing anything that moves, will sleep with anything that stands still longer than a nanno second. He may grow to decide its a mistake and want a younger woman to have kids with, grow old with. He will have a harder time relating to her, her friends, her life, issues. I think this is a HUGE mistake.  

Answer 5

yes let them be! deni moore & ashton kutcher did.

Answer 6

If it were a 20 year old girl with a 40 year old man, he'd be a pervert child molester.  So is she.

Answer 7

Completely okay. When I was at age 25 single at that time, I had a very hot s**y woman at 50 something! She had a body like a very s**y hot teenager!  Athletic body muscle tone all over!  She was extremely attractive and beautiful at her age!  Some women age very very slowly and are very well kept! She came chasing after me!  I will never forget that particular chic or should I say woman!  She was extremely hot for her age!  She show me pictures of her when she was 18 yrs of age and she was like a super model in her younger yrs. Poor woman was a divorce single mother. I was very very close to getting married to her.  I left her at the very end, because things were not working out right to perfection. No actually, my mother bud into my relationship with her and ruin everything down the drain!

Answer 8

No problem. I just hope he has considered that when he is fifty he will be married to a 70 year old woman. thats when the difference will have meaning.

Answer 9

Yes that's just great!

It doesn't matter if he's younger than her and it doesn't matter if it's the other way around.

Answer 10

I'd say he's selling himself short.

Answer 11

In my opinion can this world have enough love?  You will get some negativity from family members, but personally, it isn't their life, it is yours to make your own decisions.  I am not going to judge someone ever for loving someone.  Good Luck to  you both!

Answer 12

as long as she has cash!!! wrinkles disappear more and more beer after beer... and that's why god invented alcohol and dimmer switches

go for it.. make sure she has a healthy life policy and you are the beneficiary

Answer 13

Maturity will have a great deal to do with the success (or lack thereof) in the relationship.

My hubby is 12 years younger than I am and we've been together 18 years and both looking forward to many, many more!

They're both old enough to decide for themselves ~ if they're happy and think they're ready for a marital commitment, more power to them :)

Just my thoughts!

Answer 14

It's fine.  Nothing illegal, although there may be problems down the line when she hits menopause and he's still in good sexual shape, but that's something they have to accept in a large age gap relationship, not to mention the age gap itself may be a problem later on.

Answer 15

My ex-husband was 10 years younger than me, and the age difference did end up ruining us.  But it really is about the individual.  I don't think he will ever grow up, I was a mommy figure, ever at a 10 difference let alone a 20 year one.  Good luck, it could work out.

Answer 16

It's definitely alright if they are happy together and they think they'll be happy growing old together.