Is it right for a wife to tell her husband he has chores to do in front of guests?

Question

Is it right for a wife to tell her husband he has chores to do in front of guests?

Answer 1

No, and it isn't right for the husband to tell the wife she has chores to do in front of guests.  To do so is very disrespectful and patronizing.  Nobody, especially our spouse, deserves to be treated, or appreciates to be treated, in this manner.

Answer 2

No, it's wrong because it is emasculating. On the other hand it is not your place to say anything. If you do you could cause harm to your relationship. If your friend says something then listen to him and offer support but don't get involved and don't call his wife a ****.

Answer 3

I would not do it.  It's something  that can be said in private.

Unless I guess if one of the guest asked him to do something and she  said, oh honey don't forget you have Tim coming over to help paint the garage.

BUT if she said you need to get back there and get that garbage out, and you know it's your turn to disinfect the bathroom.That's totally uncalled for.  

As long he tells her he doesn't like it, she shouldn't do it again.  Or maybe she doesn't want company over, so she does thing to embarrass him.

Answer 4

Of course it's fine.

Answer 5

Why would you care what others think?

Answer 6

depends on how you say it. if you say it seriously i wouldnt like it but if you said it in a jokey laughy way and said something like, "heyy, pleeease dont forget you promised to clean the garage" then thats ok

Answer 7

Simply put, No.

While I am not aware of all of the dynamics of your relationship, humiliating one's spouse in front of guest's just generally makes everyone uncomfortable.

Any such wife would owe her Guests and her Husband an apology- and an additional something sweet to make it up to the Husband (though not in front of the Guests!)

Mo T, however, has an Excellent point-

delivery in this situation, as well as intent, are important to consider.

Answer 8

no

Answer 9

Most women wouldn't think so. Men take things too personally, though. They end up feeling like they aren't men. It's kind of like telling your friends that your husband watches soaps. Their manliness is 'dented' and then they get mad and defensive.

Answer 10

Spouses should never embarass the other in front of guests.  You are married to form a team against the world.  Stick with your team.  Build up your spouse, don't tear him down.

An ideal thing to say in front of guests is something really positive about your spouse, like "You should have see how early Jerry was up this morning to mow and tidy up the lawn before you arrived.  He does so much around here.  I'm really luck to have him."

Answer 11

No it's not right. If she is trying to get even for something or trying to get back at him for whatever reason, it's not right. I would think it makes her look pretty petty.

Answer 12

Is it right for a guy to tell his wife that she has chores to do in front of guests?

it is a matter of respecting your other half. saying it in front of others may hurt your husband's/wife's feelings. so i vote No...it is not right to tell your husband he has chores to do in front of guests

Answer 13

maybe, if he knew he had chores he should have done them before the guests got there... therefore saving him the embarrassment( if he was at all embarrassed) but in most cases i think the women should keep up with the house and things, unless the man is a lzy cobron and sits on the couch while you sweep under his feet! unexceptable .. there should be compromise!! but i dont think it is wrong for her to say that..... but maybe in some cases it might be i guess if i looked at it the other way i might not want my husband to say " uhh ur suppose to be doing the dishes " lol but i dont know it might just depend.