Is it right that they still want to hold hands?

Question

is it right that my kids still hold my hands?

i have two sons, 13 and 14 and they both still hold my hands in public, i also have two younger boys 11 and 9 and they still do as well, also my daughter ages 12 and 15 still hold hands with me, is it right that they want to at their coresponding ages (dont get me wrong, im thrilled that they still do im just wondering if they're to old for it or not)

Answer 1

You have a 9, 11, 12, 13, 14, and 15? God Bless you!!

I think it's sweet personally.

Answer 2

Wow siblings who still get a long at that age, how wonderful. Cherish it and don't worry about if they're too old for it, soon enough they will be too old and possibly not talking to each other like me and my siblings :-(

Answer 3

i think that they are a little bit too old for holding your hand...but its nothing to worry about.

maybe its just a bad habit, try to work it out of them.

Answer 4

Personally myself i think that it's lovely that they feel like that 2wards each other, most kids at that age would feel embarrassed to do so, so just shows you have raised lovely kids with respect for each other.

But even though it is nice on the other hand yes i do think they have out grown it, but if that makes them Happy then who is anyone to tell them otherwise :-)

Answer 5

Yes! Leave it to each of them to judge. My son is 16, and he's no 'mama's boy' or anything, and he'll still take my hand when we're walking from the car to the mall, for example. It's sweet....

Answer 6

My brother is 18 and I am 21 and we both still hold hands with our Mum in public.  I also will still hold hands with my Dad too.  So I think as long as they still want to, they should : )

Answer 7

I'm 20 years old and when I get to see my dad I'll run up and give him a huge hug, and when we walk around I'll link my arm through his sometimes...sometimes seems more "being escorted" than holding hands.. could see if your boys will "escort you" also as they're getting older I wonder if they're doing it to "protect" you instead of you them... plus I still like to cuddle up to my mom and dad on the couch when we watch tv and im home.  Just because we "grow up" doesn't mean that we're not still your babies lol.  

I don't see a problem with them holding you hand, any of them.  I also think that the adoptive ones might not want to "let go" you know? I don't know where they came from but they all obviously LOVE YOU with everything and aren't ashamed to show it.  This is also good because when they get married and have families they will be comfortable showing that affection.

Sounds like your raising loving children that will make great dads and moms.  and husbands/dates.  How a boy treats his mom is how he will treat his wife.  So this isn't weird and bad.

enjoy it until they become "too cool" lol  But when and if they do... they'll come back, even if it's just in private

Answer 8

Wow, with the older boys esp youre lucky that youre all still so close :) I say make the most of it! My 14year old sister is very affectionate and holds hands with me, and Mum / Dad - I love it!xx

Answer 9

How lucky you are!  I felt lucky too, that my youngets Son held my hand til he was older than my other two, I believe he was about 12-13 when he finally stopped.  I treasured every time his hand grabbed mine!  They are NEVER to old to hold Mom's hand!

Answer 10

I think it's nice and personally, I don't see anything wrong with it as long as they are comfortable doing it. My daughter is almost 14 and still occasionally holds either my husband's or my hand. My son will be 16 and he doesn't, but he will still put his arm around me while walking or lend me his arm. :)

Answer 11

I think it's wonderful, we are a loving family who happily show affection ( our four are 4yrs, 3yrs, 2yrs, and 10 mths) and I hope they are as close to each other as yours are when they get to that age.

Answer 12

I think them holding your hand is them trying to be close to you. Its good you have a strong relationship with your kids. My husbands parents never said I love you unless it was on a special occasion like christmas and they never showed affection.

I do think that your boys are a little too old for handholding....If I saw them I would probably double take but if they have a close relationship then its okay. They'll stop eventually.

Answer 13

Wow! How many hands do you have lol... J/K As long as your kids and yourself are comfortable, where is the problem? I am sure there will be a time when it will be "uncool' to hold hands with mom.. until that happens - cherish it.

Answer 14

I'm still shocked you have 6 kids!  

I don't see why you have a problem with holding your kids hands (even though you say you don't).  Obviously you do, otherwise you wouldn't post the question.  Are you embarrassed in public?  Something about their behavior irks you.  You shouldn't be embarrassed.  It's normal.

Answer 15

I think that's really sweet. If I were you I wouldn't say a thing about it- just enjoy it while you can. Most likely some of them will change their minds soon.  It just sounds like you have an affectionate family. Enjoy it!

Answer 16

I would say the older boys are too old. You may like it but it isn't good for them. Your 15 yr old daughter is way too old as well. I know it is nice to be so close to your kids but you need to develop a distance between them so that they eventually have their own independence. It really is unfair to keep them so close. You and them will both suffer for it somewhere along the line.

Answer 17

So you're saying that you had kids back to back for 5 years?

Answer 18

have you never heard of a TV

Answer 19

My daughter at 10 is reluctant to hold mine..

Answer 20

they have still the fear of crossing the roads

IT is normal if they hold hands

Answer 21

I personally see nothing wrong with it.  So they love each other, good job on your part.

Answer 22

they seem a little old to be holding hands .

Answer 23

Why even question an affectionate gesture from your children?  There is no age limit to showing love.  Take pride in your children that they are confident enough display affection in public without worrying about what their peers  think.

You're doing a good job at being a mom.

I am 40, and would gladly hold my mom's hand in public.