Is it right to have my baby knowing that im alone and have no future is it fair to it?

Question

to start the story off

i am an only child and about 9 months ago my mum died in a accident and i dont know my dad.

i am on mdeication for a illness and have just found out that im preganant, my doctor says i shouldnt have the baby bacause i will have to stop taking the medication which he obvs doesnt want me to stop taking them but i want my baby after the death of my mum its like a new begginig not that i will ever forget my mum its just i need someone in my life to love but i cant love it without the medication

please help what should i do??

and if your just going to be rude then just dont bother answering because this is actually making me upset quiet abit.

thanks

x

Answer 1

I think you should keep the baby. I lost my mom when i was 16years old and pregnant and i wasn't sure what to do either but i kept it. She is now 11years old and every time i look at her for some reason i see a little bit of my mom. Just take care of your self as best as possible, get more than one doctors opinion on those meds. My condolences on your loss.  

Answer 2

What is the other alternative?? I think you should keep this baby but remember you have to take good care of yourself in order to be able to take care of the baby. Read about pregnancy do's and dont's, get parenting books and magazines and take very good care of this baby. This baby will come before any social life so if you're willing to give that up to be a good mother then you already know what you must do.

Answer 3

your asking to be judged here dear, so here goes... you should do what the doctor tells you and abort the pregnancy, your not gonna be in the right frame of mind and health to carry this child, you will hold this pain over the child even if things by chance work out alright. nowhere did you mention the father of the child. i believe you are not mentioning him on purpose and do not want him in the picture. is that right? you are only considering your own feelings here. do what is best for the health of all concerned. good luck.

Answer 4

i believe in god and believe he does everything for a reason. with that being said i believe there is a reason why he blessed u with that baby. wat do u know your body changes A LOT when ur pregnant. and maybe you wont need those meds u just dont know it yet.

honestly none of us in here can tell u wat to do. at least i know i cant.

if u believe in god just pray to him a lot, he will give u the right answear.

i believe by wat u said that baby growing inside u its wat is goin to make u a stroger woman and wat is going to help u keep on going in life.

remember everything happens for a reason.

ur mommy will watch over u and she will not let u hurt u or ur baby.

keep the baby, u want ur baby u said. tell the doctor to try to find diff medications, pray and pray a lot. pray to ur mommy to help u she will help u.

i would say wait 1 month after u have ur baby and if u think u cant do it gie it up for adoption but keep it. if ur health its not at risk of course.

i hope everything works out for u.

Answer 5

you are lucky that you can have a child there is allways people way worse of than you and you don't no there may be a man in your life soon be brave and live this life its the only one you will get good luck  

Answer 6

its hard to give an honest answer without knowing the illness or medication...but i will say that a friend of mine got pregnant and was on all kinds of meds for depression and other things..what her doctor did was slowly lowered the dosage and kept an eye on both her and the baby..

im sorry about all the hurt youre going through..maybe get a hold of another doctor and get a second opinion about your case and see if theres a way to have a healthy baby and b able to take care of it..

oh her baby was born healthy and theyre both doing good..

i hope things work out for you...just do whats best for both you and your baby..

also you might want to speak with a counselor to help you with this stressful time..

good luck

addition: i think you can do it with support of the counselor and other organizations...just make sure you and your baby are healthy and safe..