Is it rude for a new friend to discuss their feelings about people your race with you without being asked?

Question

I went to the bar with one of my coworkers for the first time. I'm Asian and he's White. We had a decent time until we were out in the parking lot. That's when he pointed out how hot the three Asian girls in the bar were. I told him I didn't even notice there were any other Asians in the bar. He discreetly pointed to his left where they were walking.

Then started saying how some Asian guys don't like White men to date Asian girls.

I was like, "Oh, well some people think they're doing it because its a fetish thing I guess".

Then, he proceded to tell me how some Asian men had made smart comments to him when he walked into a bar with his Asian date once.

THEN he starts talking about how the only Asian girls he dated weren't all meek and bookish or whores, they were your avergage suburban chick.

After that he proceeds to tell me how he broke up with one Asian girl because she was too sterotypical.

Answer 1

Sound like he has an alter ego problem,or he feels insignificant aouund you and is possably jelous of your race.Its also a form of passive agressive behaviour.

Answer 2

He sounds a right old bore.  Perhaps he thinks by talking like this you will accept him, what a pratt.!!!

Next time he asks you for a drink think of a good excuse.

Answer 3

The guy is socially inept.  What a moron.

Answer 4

d**n, man, why does this bother you? Because he is noticing the fact that all people are of different cultures and you want to blend into the woodwork and not be considered Asian? It doesn't sound bad to me. He probably brought it up with you because you are Asian and could give some interesting feedback, being of that culture. I am wondering if you are ashamed of being Asian, on some level, and don't like being reminded of it. Get over yourself. You were born a certain ethnicity and it's fine. However, people are curious about things outside their experience and want to consult those in the know. It isn't insulting, as long as they don't pigeonhole you.

Answer 5

Sounds to me as though he used a truly clumsy, awkward, and (probably) unintentionally racist approach to let you know he likes Asians in general and wants to be friends.  His behavior does sound rude, but I have no way of knowing whether he's simply a naive, eager puppy trying too hard to please or an actual clod.  It's up to you to decide whether or not he's worth the effort to work through the awkwardness.

Answer 6

he's an idiot who doesn't know when to shut up..dont hang around with narrow minded, ignorant fools.. come on now.. :)

or better yet tell him how you feel.. and do it when his sober enough to get you and respect that boundry