Is it rude not to bring a gift?

Question

I had a birthday party for my daughter today and out of 20 plus people that were there only three brought gifts. I felt I gave everyone really good goody bags and great food. I have one grandparent who goes over board with presents. Could that get people thinking that my daughter gets enough and they don't need to bring a gift?

Answer 1

the fact that people were there is gift enough--relax and get over it.  junk dont = love.

Answer 2

Keep in mind some families cannot afford gifts and may feel embarrassed about not having one. Perhaps they felt that the gifts they could provide could not measure up to the ones the grandparent provides.

Answer 3

I think it is all about upbringing and gifts should have been bestowed by everyone who was invited and the fact that they didn't is just plain rude.

Just recently a cousin of mine was invited to a 21st birthday party held in a hotel reception room on the Gold Coast Queensland and on the invitation it said no gifts but there is a Wishing Well (for money donations) and most of the people there were from this girl's place of work and the only food provided were potatoe chips and they all had to purchase their own drinks and the drinks were very expensive and the parents were in attendance and they had hired a D.J. but that was that and the birthday girl commented to my cousin "Oh I hope I get at least $1,500.00 from the wishing well for my overseas trip.   Now isn't that rude too?  It is all about how you were brought up and "Users" abound in this world.  

Answer 4

I can't believe that!  That's awful.. I totally think it is rude that people didn't bring gifts for your daughter.  I hope that they at least brought birthday cards, but still that's sort of rude.  

I know I wouldn't take my kid to a birthday party (if I had a child) without bringing a gift for the child celebrating their special day.

That's awful that only three out of 20+ brought gifts, I'm sorry.

Answer 5

OMG?! Who does not bring a gift when they are invited to a birthday party. It is customary. It is a requirement. WTF?! Don't invite them back. Freeloaders.  

Answer 6

Even if they think so, they still should. It is quite rude, but they have their reasons, be it lack of manners or finance.

Answer 7

Are these people relatives or friends? Also, What sort of birthday party was it and how hold is your daughter? These factors contribute a lot to receiving presents. I don't think that people think that your daughter gets enough presents so they don't bring one.

Answer 8

Yes..when invited to a party, a person should ALWAYS bring something.