Is it rude not to invite after being invited?

Question

My daughter was invited to a party that is two weeks before the party she is having. We have a limit to how many kids can come... is it rude not to invite the girl that invited her?

Answer 1

very rude !

Answer 2

Yes it is rude.

Answer 3

only if she will be going to the other child's party.

Answer 4

If you had invited all the kids you were able to before your daughter got invited to the other party then I'd say tough cookies. Your party had been planed and everyone invited before you knew about the other party.

If there is an open spot or two however it would be nice to invite the other girl.

Answer 5

sorry to say but yea that is kinda messed up. try to invite her and if not come up with a flawless excuse

Answer 6

Is the little girl someone who your daughter plays with regularly? If so I would really try to add on one more child, just to avoid any awkward situation if you know what I mean. Chances are that not all of the kids who are invited are actually going to show up anyway.

Answer 7

I don't think it is.  It is your daughters party let her decide who to invite. She did not ask to be invited to the other girls party. That would have been rude. I let my daughter decide who comes to hers.

Answer 8

its ok, just early training for adult reality

Answer 9

Yes, I think it is rude.  It's a weird thing - but you really should invite the other child.  It's just one more kid.

Answer 10

If you already sent out the invitations for your daughter's birthday, then forget about inviting the extra friend.  Besides, how is she or her mother going to know?  Unless you see them regularly, which would make her a close friend and you should've invited close friends to begin with, then they won't know a thing and no one's feelings are hurt.  This is why I don't do these expensive birthday parties.

Answer 11

If you absolutely cannot invite one more child, then you can't invite one more, and that's just how it is. But if you can make room for one more, you should really try to invite the little girl who (or whose mother) invited your daughter to her party.

Answer 12

Maybe someone who you have invited can't come? I think it is rude to not invite her, and even if you decline the invite, she has still invited your daughter etc. If you can squeeze her in I would, otherwise invite her round for a birthday tea or something with your daughter, and have them do some fun things there.

I rememeber when my daughter was 11, she was having a cinema party, and I said 8 people could come otherwise it gets a bit pricy. This one girl who she hadn't invited actually asked if my daughter had forgotton her invitation! So I ended up with 9 at the party.

Good luck!

Answer 13

I would invite that child......reciprocate the generosity. If you don`t want to, decline their invitation.But that`s tacky and rude, no offence. I would invite the child. I`m talking from experience. There was a situation where my neighbour was having a clown over, and then after she was going to Chucky Cheese.. I invited her daughter the weekend before to my sons birthday, she`s my neighbour, our children love each other. But she called me, trying to be polite and considerate, to tell me she wasn`t inviting my children to her daughter`s party.I guess she couldn`t afford two more children. Hmmm, I thought, a Chucky Cheese party and then a clown????WOW, how considerate is she??Remember, politics is involved when dealing with children`s parties.I know people don`t want to consider this factor, but yeah, there are hard feelings from both the parents and the children.

Answer 14

Since it's a financial reason, I wouldn't bother.

I let my daughter make up the list of who comes to her birthday parties. This year she was invited to a few parties (some were declined though) and those kids weren't invited to hers. One of those kids had a birthday party MAYBE a week before my daughter and we did not invite her. I'm not friends with her family, I don't particularly like them, but my daughter was friends with her so what do you do? I bit my tongue and let her go to the party. When she made out her list I was surprised she left this other girl out. I asked if she planned to invite her and it was a resounding NO.

Since your list has been made, plans are set, and finances in place for so many kids, don't feel bad about not inviting her. It may come off rude and snobbish to the parents, but who really cares? If your daughter was such close friends with this girl, she would have been on your daughter's list to start with.

Good luck!

Answer 15

Yeah, it is.

The etiquette of entertaining is that you reciprocate after you accept the hospitality of another.

If you can't or won't reciprocate, then you decline their invitation.

Answer 16

If she attends the other party, it would be rude not to invite the other child.  I agree with the previous poster, social etiquette for children and adults is that you reciprocate the invitiation or you do not accept the other person's invitation in the first place.  

Unless she is a completely horrible child, you likely won't notice one more all that much.