Is it rude of him not to introduce me or an I being over sensitive?

Question

We went to a restaraunt this afternoon and once again, he strikes up a conversation with a guy at the table behind ours and talk, talk, talk on and on. He took the guys phone number and left me sitting there eating. My meal was 1/2 finished before he finally got back to the table and sat down.

The whole time I felt like an idiot and wonder if he is just ashamed of me or something. He runs into people all of the time and never introduces me or anything. I dont feel like I should be made a big tooodooo over, but he could say something as simple as this is joe Bob a friend of mine from the office and explain who I am.

Whats your take on this?

Answer 1

He's being rude and thoughtless.  Next time, speak up and say "Hi, I'm (name), pleased to meet you.  He should get the hint.

Answer 2

I wouldn't be too worried.  Keep in mind that they may be acquaintances or something and he can't remember their name... that happens to me sometimes!

If he comes back to the table and then tells you all about that person and they know each other well THEN I'd be a bit concerned though.

Why not ask him the next time it happens?  Say "Who was that?" and see what he says.  If it is someone he is close with, then ask why he didn't introduce you - or say "I wish I could have met him."

Answer 3

I agree he should have more manners and introduce you. It takes like two seconds and is the polite thing to do.

Answer 4

yes it is rude but men just don't think the way we do i have been with my husband 12years and i think in that 12 years he has introduced me once when we were dating, you just get used to it and then return the favor (yes immature but it will make you feel better lol) don't introduce him to people you stop to talk to.

Answer 5

nope its not rude....just stupid.  I never understood why girl put up with stuff like that.  Anyways you can try training him but but i don't think a guy will learn.  Find a smarter more sensitive boyfriend, who wouldn't dare let you sit alone in a conversation without being talked to

Answer 6

definitely!

What you need to do is, after a few minutes into him doing it...interrupt the conversation and introduce yourself to the person and shake their hand...being really sweet, only looking at the other person. It will make him feel REALLY stupid. I've done it before and it totally works.

Answer 7

Yes, it`s rude, and therefore no, you are not being oversensitive.

You could introduce yourself - so you can see his response.

If he is annoyed, then you apparently are not important enough. You may need to make choices at that point.

If this is normal behavior - i do not expect that he is really all that fond of you. I would be proud to ' show off ' my girl...

Answer 8

You're being overly sensitive and self absorbed.

Answer 9

That would bother me too. Especially if it is a constant issue. I could let it slide once maybe even twice but it sounds like you are beyond that.