Is it rude or acceptable to bring people over at 3 am on a workday?

Question

my roommate brought over friends at 3 am friday morn, and they hung out till 5 am. the friends used my things without permission, and kept me up in the next room. i have told roomie that i do not want people over that late and roomie has agreed, but this time roomie went beyond proper etiquette. how should i address the issue?

Answer 1

It is rude.

I suggest that you negotiate the matter calmly, and with sweet reason.

Try to play a game you can win, specifically, play a cooperative game rather a competitive one. Offer something they want in return for the behaviour you want.

Remember; if your room mate is unreasonable enough to bring their friends back on a work night, you probably can't win an "unreasonableness" contest.

Answer 2

Its inconsiderate.  When you decide to be a roommate, you accept the fact that you have to constantly respect another person.  He knew you were there, he knew it was late, he's inconsiderate.  And now you have reason to be concerned about your belongings if he won't stop his late night friends from touching your property. Talk to him about it but don't tolerate it happening again.

Answer 3

It sounds rude unless all parties involved, including you, have agreed that having guests over at that time is acceptable. Its even more inappropriate that your roommate's guests helped themselves to use your things.

You need to have a serious chat with your roommate to discuss boundaries and house rules, and what to do to make it up to the other person when certain rules are broken. If you agree that, suppose, if a certain rule if broken, the one at fault owes the other person $20, then that may deter the roomie from breaking the rules. If you find that the roomie is consistently being disrespectful in this manner, then I would suggest either moving out or finding another roommate (depending on who's name is on the lease).

Answer 4

talk to him and if he doesnt agree throw him out

Answer 5

Get a new room mate.....

Answer 6

I would just sit down and agree to some ground rules, one if which is no guests on worknights after a certain hour

Answer 7

You should nip this in the bud. Your not happy now you won't be happy later. Boundaries are there not to be broken but allow space and show respect.  Wait and see if your roomie will make it up to you.

Answer 8

I would sit down and talk to your roommate because what they are doing isn't acceptable especially if you have classes or work in the morning.  Ask him to keep it down or take it outside or go to someone elses house because you have to get up.  Try to be as nice as possible because if you are rude or seem like you're attacking your roommate it will only cause the problem to get worse.