Is it rude to ask a Korean or Japanese girl if they had plastic/eye surgery?

Question

I want a Korean or Japanese girlfriend; I've been to both countries man times and I've noticed that most of the women have eye and nose surgery. I want a Korean or Japanese girl with true beauty. Is it rude to ask them if they had such surgery?

I'm Caucasian if that helps any.

Answer 1

It's not rude.  You said you've been to both countries many times.  If that's true, you would know that it's a fairly standard greeting to comment on someone's looks:  "Your face is looking a little fat."  "You've put on a bit of weight since last time I saw you."  "Wow, you've really slimmed down."  etc.

The point is that you're paying attention.  That's what people want to see.  If you're paying attention to people's eyes, they'll notice that your level of awareness is a bit higher than others' and even if they don't particularly like the comment, will feel safer around you than others.

Answer 2

What does being Korean or Japanese have to do with anything?  It's plain rude to ask anyone if he or she has had plastic surgery.  

Nobody would dare ask me if I have had liposuction, and in any case it's very clear that I have not.

What is "true beauty"?  Don't you mean unadulterated Asian characteristics?  Are there no beautiful western women?

I am very sorry that you have such a negative attitude towards western women, because you will surely carry that negativity to Japan or Korea or wherever else your search for true beauty takes you.

By the way, whoever said that Japan and Korea are two very different countries is correct.  

Cross-cultural relationships are challenging enough to start with.  I strongly recommend that you find out as much as you can about Korea and Japan before going any further.

To be sure, it's easy enough to get a bimbo or a gold-digger girlfriend in Asia, but I noticed in my years in Asia that guys who cannot get decent girlfriends at home in Europe or North America or Australia or South Africa cannot do so in Asia either.  They take their interpersonal obstacles with them

You are destined to be very unhappy if you stress physical beauty over the true beauty that shines from within a woman of any race or colour.

Answer 3

Do you think it's rude to ask any women if they had a plastic surgery?

Well...just think about that....

By the way, I'm a Japanese female and I've never had a plastic surgery.

Answer 4

Of it is rude and if they did, they wouldn't tell you the truth because they want you to think they are "true beauty".  I am Asian myself and always wonder why some men prefer Asian women over Western women, do you have preconceived ideas of what Asian women are supposed to behave?  If you think they are more submissive, boy, you got it wrong.

Answer 5

It's very rude. And I'd suggest you learn something about these two countries before you decide you want a girlfriend from one of them.

Korea and Japan are very different.

If you go out with someone only for her looks, that relationship is not going to last.

Answer 6

Wow, what a good way to start a relationship ! I'll have to say I'd look else-where if I were you. There's more to a woman than her eyes.

And you're wrong, most women in these countries don't have eye and nose sugrery.

Sorry,I'd have to say your chances are zero.

Answer 7

Of course that is rude. Why do you care so much? I think finding out what kind of person they are is about 1 billion times more important than if they had plastic surgery. Really I hope you are joking because your question embarrasses me as a man. No wonder women complain about us when they get asked these kinds of questions. sigh.

Answer 8

What's the point? If they did have such surgery they would just deny it. Women always have their secrets. Maybe you should get this girlfriend first before you plan this interrogation.  

Answer 9

It is rude to ask any woman if she has had plastic surgery. It is insulting to insinuate that they were not beautiful, but had an operation to improve their looks.

This is like asking a woman her age, or if she really weighs some amount and that she looks fat.

I don't think you are going to be successful in finding a girl until you stop focusing on their faces and look inside.

Answer 10

Er, yeah it's kinda rude.  I understand your concern, though.  Plastic surgery is often a sign of low self-esteem.  But even if you found a girl who did get plastic surgery, it shouldn't matter, so long as they look natural.  She needs a guy who loves her no matter what she looks like - surgery or no.

Answer 11

Uh,yes. And I don't think you have much chance of finding anyone. If you're that worried about a woman's eye's, you can't be very serious about loving anyone.

And no, "most" of these women do NOT have surgery.

  You make no sense. Why would you even ask such a lame question to begin with? It's the woman's own business if she had surgery or not. Don't be so shallow.

Answer 12

Yes, it is.

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