Is it rude to ask people if they have a boyfriend?

Question

hey everyone can you help me out here. I am 16 at the moment and i have never had a girlfriend. But I am finding it incresingly annoying when people ask me "do you have a girlfriend?" I mean like, is it rude to ask it? cos like these friends that live three hours away from us ask it almost every visit and it annoys me. plus my ucle and cousins all have to a few times. I just feel like saying "its non of your bloody businness!!" but should it be a personal thing, and not be asked ? help me out please need to know for future reference thanks and ten points will be given for best answer.

Answer 1

hehe. i totally know what you mean. i dont mind like some people asking occasionally if i have a boyfriend right, but when you meet someone you havent seen for ages or something and one of their 1st questions is "so you got a boyfriend?" its like "is that all u can think to ask me?????"

Answer 2

They are just trying to make chit chat-after a while it will be so "How's College" or "How's work" etc....

Then when you have someone it's "When are you getting married" then When are you having kids, when are you having another kid

You get the idea...don't take it too personal though

Answer 3

Hi Andy,

they ask you this because they care about your and they are curious. Is not to make you feel bad, no no, it´s pure curiosity and they are probably anxious about it and they want to know if you would have one.

It´s not rude to ask people if they have aboyfriend/ gilfriend, it´s just a simple curitosity, at least they show they care about you and your love life. This is something to be happy about it when someone asks, and not embarassed (at least in most cases)

Answer 4

I'm g*y & have a long term girlfriend but I look straight so when people ask me if I have a boyfriend its always fun to see their face when I say "actually i have a girlfriend" - you can almost see them going "arghhhh I'm so embarrassed" in their heads! They're always extra nice after that to make up for their faux pas!

Your family and friends just care and are curious, its up to you what you tell them!!

Answer 5

I don't think so. Attitude is the main factor behind anything.

Answer 6

I find it extremely rude, especially when it's obvious they know you don't and just want to make themeselves feel supierior. It is okay if its a close friend or family member that you haven't seen in a while and is asked very casually. But in most cases, it's too much of  a personal question to be asked by an aquaintence or a person you don't have that kind of relasionship with.

Answer 7

i find it annoying some of my friends who i dont see that often tend to have a different boyfriend everytime i speak to them and all they seem to ask me is so"who you seeing now then" its like god you ask me the same thing everytime i see you so it does get really annoying

Answer 8

It's not compulsory for a 16 year old to have a girlfriend or boyfriend but it is quite common. If you're not ready for a relationship or are possibly g*y and don't want to discuss it, then just make something up. Say yes, but she's away at college or overseas, or no I haven't met anyone special yet.

Unless someone's got their eye on you, it's most likely just small talk.

Answer 9

It 's not rude as long as others know it won't annoy you. If a stranger asks you, it will probably be rude and annoying; but in most cases it isn't. I think your relatives and not so close friends shouldn't ask, as they know you don't like this question. You can show them in a polite and cool way that you don't like to tak about it.

Answer 10

Technically speaking, yes, it is rude, in some situations. Really it varies based on your relationship with the person who's asking.

In any sort of formal or semi-formal setting, as well as when you're first meeting someone, or speaking with someone who you're not familiar with, then yes, it's definitely rude, just as it's rude to ask someone if they're married in such a situation. But that's not what it seems you're talking about.

You're talking about when your friends and family ask, and  this would really vary based on your relationship with the person asking. It is a personal question, yes, but the acceptability of personal questions varies based on how close your relationship with the person is.

If the question makes you uncomfortable, then the appropriate thing to do is definitely not to tell people that it's none of their business, because that's probably even more rude. What you should do, when your friends and family ask, is just tell them that you don't appreciate them asking you, then ask them to stop.

If they continue asking you, THEN you can shout at them to your heart's content, but first you'd need to establish that what they're asking makes you uncomfortable. The whole ettiquite standard is hazy there, and while you're not wrong in thinking it's rude for them to ask, they're not exactly wrong in thinking it's acceptable for them to ask. (odd, I know)