Is it rude to ask to be a Godparent?

Question

I live with my boyfriends family, his cousin who lives with us is pregnant and shes only 16.

I think I would be the best choice for Godmother because Im quite a bit older, responisble, am marrying into her family, and Im really into religion and Jesus and God.

So Is it rude to ask to be the Godmother. I want this child to have a happy, loving life filled with God and I don't think that her other choices can really provide that for her baby. Especially since she is so young.

Answer 1

Its rude to even presume she is going to have godparents for her child.

She may not want godparents, she may have religious beliefs that are different than yours.  Or she may want to put off this decision until she has a better idea who would make a good godparent.

I know babies go to church but they have to have some grasp of language before "religious training" becomes meaningful.

Answer 2

It's not your child so it's not your place to teach the child about religion.  A godparent is chosen by a parent to make sure the child has a spiritual upbringing in case something happened to the parents and they could not do so.  Many people however, don't take the whole role that seriously anymore.

Answer 3

Its completely rude.  Its her baby, her decision.  If she wants you to be a godparent, then great.  But you are not the one to decide who it should be.  And just so you know, plenty of young mothers are good mothers, her age doesn't automatically mean that she will be a bad mother.

Answer 4

i god parent is to ensure that the child will have guidence in his or her regilion not in the practice of raising the child  

Answer 5

yes.  it is rude.  don't do it.  you can be a positive influence on the kid without having an official title.  if you are pushy now, you won't have much access to the kid later.

Answer 6

Yes it is rude. I understand what you are saying because she's probably going to ask people her own age. But you are a woman of God so don't judge a book by its cover. It's her decision and asking her would make her feel pressured, esp. if she wasn't going to pick you.

Answer 7

Yes it's rude. It's not your decision to make.

Answer 8

Yes it's wrong. It's not YOUR decision to be making. If she asks you, fine, but you don't go around asking for things like that.

Answer 9

VERY rude!I would never ask to be a godoarent.The childs mother knows who the right people around her would be.

Answer 10

Oh God YES. Please don't do that. It's up to her. If she wants to she'll ask but if she doesn't then it wasn't meant to be. FOR GOD SAKES please don't ask. It's RUDE and so GHETTO.

Answer 11

Yes, it is very rude.  Totally not your decision and a very imposing thing to do.  And besides which, how responsible and "into religion" can you be if you're not married and living with your boyfriend and his family?

Answer 12

its not your descion...and i would think it rude of you to ask!

Answer 13

You don't ask to be a Godparent.  That is something the parents decide on their own and then ask you.

You don't have to be a Godparent to be there for her and help her make smart choices for her baby and to teach the baby about religion.  You can still play that part without being given a title.  Who knows, if you do that and she sees what a good influence you are, maybe she'll decide to ask you all on her own.

Answer 14

To flat out ask to be godmother is a bit rude, but you can always hint around it to let her know that you will always be there for her and her baby and you want the best for him/her. Also, ask if she needs help with anything for the pregnancy and baby shower. Just show her how good of a candidate you are and hopefully she will make the right choice. Ultimately, it is her choice though. Another hint is to ask if she has decided a godmother yet and if she wants help choosing one.  

Answer 15

no i don't think so, as soon as i found out my friend was pregnant i told her that i wanted to be the god mom, because i didn't get to be her first son's (and i see him all the time) and i am the god mother to her second son! i think its fine go ahead

Answer 16

Yes, you should wait to be asked, not ask yourself.

The mother may have different opinions on who she wants as godmother! Just because she is young doesnt mean that the baby wont have a happy life.

Having a baby brings responsibility, so you will probably be suprised how much she matures once the baby arrives.