I am the bride.
Let's call the not-a-groomsman George. George was excessively mean to me when I dated his other friend, and now that I'm with my fiance, he has been nicer but sometimes still hurts my feelings, and I always feel like George might lash out at me at any time. George's fiance is super duper nice, though, and they are now engaged and getting married over a year from now - starting to make their own plans. George and my fiance hang out regularly, but my fiance has already asked friends he's known 2-3x longer to be his groomsmen, and asked two other grooms he has been an usher for this year to be ushers for our wedding. (I picked the other two ushers.)
Was it completely rude for her to ask ME why my fiance didn't ask George to be in our wedding? She made it sound like the rest of that group of friends is all talking about this too - like I'm ruining their friendship by marrying him or something!
Please help!
Tags: