Is it rude to correct someone? situation inside?

Question

So the other day I watered my lawn with a weed killer for lawns spray thing that you attach to the hose. It's made specifically so that it does not harm lawns but only weed plants.

So the next day I mentioned to my neighbor that the weed killer did nothing just as a conversation starter because nothing had changed on my lawn despite the "see results in hours." Then she's like "oh yeah it just harmed your grass... look some of your spray went onto my lawn" and pointed out some patchy spots. My lawn had some patchy spots already and so did hers and i know for a fact that the weed spray did not do that. but she is nice and didnt seem to make a big deal about it so i just said "oh yeah i see..." and said sorry.

She took it nicely and said dont worry but i've been thinking about telling her that it wasn't the spray and tell her all the facts.

would you have corrected her or just apologize for something that you didnt do? she's nice and i have nothing against her!

Answer 1

You should have told her about the spray there when she said it.

It's a bit late now, i'd just forget about it, she probably has too if she took it nicely.

Answer 2

i wouldnt bother her after that....may cause more trouble

Answer 3

It's good to correct people

Answer 4

Dont bother...it would be a waste of time.

Answer 5

If no harm was done then leave the conversation where you ended it all seems good and no bad words were exchanged

Answer 6

I wouldn't consider it correcting her, more like educating her... and yes, I would have told her.  Better to tell her than to have her think you damaged her property.

I'd let it go though, since you didn't do it right away.  Doesn't sound like there was any harm done.

Answer 7

never apologize for something you didn't do.  you never know how people will act when you admit to something your innocent of.

save your apologies for when you really s***w up.

Answer 8

i wouldve her told her nicly..

"im not sure if it was the weed killer because it says to not harm the grass, but if it was im sorry."

cuz it could have been your fault...

who knows?

Answer 9

Give her the benefit of the doubt... maybe it rained and your weed killer seeped into her grass...

I woulnd't bring it up if she seemed OK about it.

Answer 10

The problem about being "polite" and apologizing for something that you didn't do is that you are really accepting responsibility.  The best course of action is to say that you feel sorry that you feel that way and not i'm sorry for messing up your lawn.

Answer 11

never admit fault, it'll catch up with you in court.

just pee on her lawn for some revenge

Answer 12

i would have just slipped a little something in like "hmm that's weird because it said it wasn't supposed to and i didn't think it did because my patchy spots are actually older, i thought yours were too". i would have gotten my comment in but made it seem like i was being nonchalant about it

Answer 13

I'd just let it go at this point. I would have innocently at the time that she made the comment said something like "so you don't think that those patchy spots were there before"? (All sweet and innocent remind you). Then probably would have apologized like you did. Don't bring it up now, you won't get anywhere. Either she really knows that they were already there, or she won't believe what you tell her or what she reads on the bottle. Just think of it as a resolved situation.

If you go and get a different kind of spray, I would go and ask her what she recommends because you don't know what to get.

Then, if she sees patchy spots later, she can't very well blame you for using something that she recommended! Just act ignorant, some people just love to give advice. Keep the peace!

Best Wishes

Answer 14

I would just leave it.  If she brings it up again, maybe say something, but there just really isnt any point of going over it again at this point.

Answer 15

correct her just in case, so it cant be brought up against you in the future if something does come up between you two

Answer 16

If she didnt make a big deal out of it why would you. Some people might take the wrong way and if you do it it might ruin your relation with her. I would just leave at that.

Answer 17

Forget about it.

Answer 18

well I would have been like naw...that spot has been there for awhile. (if it had been that is).

Answer 19

never admit to wrong doing...............

unless you did it.................

if you did do it, simply apologize

Answer 20

I would have said, I'm very certain I didn't get any on your lawn but I'm sorry if you think I did.

That way you are not apologizing for what you did not do, it's more of a "I feel sorry for you thinking I did this"

She'll get the point and you'll still be polite

Answer 21

IF U STOOP TO A DUMMIES LEVEL, THEY'LL BEAT U WITH EXPERIENCE. sometimes u gotta learn to let things go

Answer 22

well if you already said sorry then it is definitely not worth being rude and taking your apology back so i guess you should just forget about, unless, of course if she holds it against you then you should inform him. but otherwise don't sweat it

Answer 23

I would have corrected her politely. Something along the lines of ..."....no, I'm pretty sure those patchy spots were already there...that's why I'm trying to make my lawn look better.

Answer 24

Never apologize for something if it wasn't your fault.  You should have said that you'll have to test the weed killer on a piece of grass in your yard, or point out that the spots were there before, and you are still trying to figure out what caused them.