Is it rude to do the following?

Question

Okay, well one of my relatives is in the hospital for something that may or may not be serious. I'm supposed to be going out with my friends in an hour or two, and I feel kind of bad about it. I mean, it's not like I'm making a choice between seeing my relative or hanging out with my friends. I don't know why I feel a certain guilt. So, would it be rude to go out with my friends? Otherwise, I would just be sitting at home. I have no clue why I feel so guilty about it. What should I do? What would YOU do?

Thanks.

Answer 1

Well, if your relative just went in the hospital, I would still go out with your friends and just do it for a little while, then, go to the hospital after wards. Hope this helped!

Answer 2

You should be able to go out with friends, it a perfectly normal thing to do.

Just make sure you visit every so often and let you relative know that they are in your thoughts and that you really care.

Answer 3

if i couldn't visit my relative, then i would go out.  if you arent THAT sad and in the mood to go out, then what's the problem?  

Answer 4

i would fallow my instinct... i would go visit for a while and go hang o ut after. or if youre just sitting alone at home psh just go do your thing with friends. but i mean if you feel guilty...is that telling you something??

Answer 5

Well go out with them but not the entire day. Just make it back by dinner

Answer 6

no go have fun : )

Answer 7

I would go out with friends.  :-)

Answer 8

Go out with your friends. If a member of your family calls you selfish for going out with your friends then just say you were trying to get things off your mind and that your friends cheered you up.

Answer 9

Well i would go out today but phone your relative, then see them tomorrow! x

Answer 10

Listen to the heart.  If it is making you uncomfortable for a reason listen to it and stay at home, otherwise you won't enjoy yourself, even if you go out and you will end up feeling more guilty.  This way at least you will feel better for respecting the love that you may feel for that reletive.  YOU can phone the hospital or even drop by with some flowers  and inquire about his health and let him know you him to get well soon.  Nothing wrong in your going out, cause you can't do anything about him being sick, and in the hospital, by staying hom either.  But you should never do anything you might feel guilty doing cause the conscience inside of you is telling you not to do so, so remedy it by first asking about his welfare and then go out.

Answer 11

How about you go see the relative with your friends for about a few minutes take some flowers or something. And then go do what you want, this way you wont feel guilty about doing the right thing.

You could also send your best wishes and send the message along with someone thats IS going to see the relative.

You could also visit the relative the next day.

Answer 12

I know how you feel, but you cant feel responsible or guilty for what your relative is going through atm. You just need to carry on with your life and give support to your relative when you can.

Answer 13

nooo

Answer 14

thats not rude. you can see your relative anytime right?

Answer 15

No i wouldn't feel guilty. Honestly though they would prob. like to see you, there is only so much you can do at the hospital. Go see them tomorrow. Bring them a book or something to keep them busy.

Answer 16

I have the same feeling, sometimes, too. It isn't necisarily bad, but it just shows that you care about your relative. As long as you go back to see her, I don't see why it would be bad...hope this helps... :)

Answer 17

write a letter and go out with ur friends but a nice letter that says luv ya hope you feel better soon and may be a little funny joke just to make the person happy

Answer 18

have fun. it's not like you can do anything about it

Answer 19

i would go out and ask your mom to call you when  she got any news ofhow the relative is doing.

Answer 20

Go out have fun.  Unless your sitting in with your relative your life should go on.  I know I wouldn't want to disrupt my family's lives with my problems.

Answer 21

i guess you feel bad about it because you feel like your SUPPOSED to be there.

if this were happening to me, i would visit my relative another time. if its not all thats serious then i would still care but just hang out with my friends.

i dont think it would be rude. but even if she/he smilles and doesnt mind, they might be thinking ".. :( " ya know?

why dont you ask the relative if it would be okay?

just make sure to visit him/her.

Answer 22

Its not rude to go out with your friends as long as you aren't blowing off your relatives. You probably feel guilty because you're out having fun while your relative is in the hospital but think about what your relative would want you to do. THey probably wouldnt want you to suffer too. I would go out with my friends (especially if you alreaddy told your friends you could go) but i would make sure i get around to visiting my relative too.  

Answer 23

It's ok to go out. I'm sure your family would understand. The world doesn't stop when someone goes into hospital. Make sure you have your mobile on you so that if there is any news you can get there as soon as you can.

Answer 24

Visting the relative..then going with friends.

Answer 25

if i were YOU... i would have told them tht i cant go coz im visiting my couzin. i probably think its rude NOT to visit ur cousin. but its not like u always cancel plans with ur friends rite? do ya?

Answer 26

Not if you are just going to be sitting at home.