Is it rude to have a baby-shower registry?

Question

My sister-in-law is having a baby-shower & she started a gift registry. Everything on her list is quite pricey. I think it's a bit greedy, and rude. I know I dont have to get whats on the list, but I feel like it'll be a big disappointment to her if she doesnt get what she wanted. Every baby-shower I have attended, there was no registry. What do you think?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I felt that way about setting up a registry so finally my friend talked me into it.  So when I did, I chose what I wanted and put a note to people viewing it "If you want to purchase from the registry here is an idea of what I want, if you choose to get something else please suprise me.  Luv ya!"  I feel a baby shower is to celebrate the pregnancy and get somethings for the baby.  I still feel the primary responsibility of providing the essentials are the parents.

Answer 3

Anything over $30 is bring greedy.  I would have never asked for expensive items.

Answer 4

I think they're great,both as a gift-buyer and a mommy-to-be.  You should put items with all price ranges on your registry so everyone can afford to buy something off of it.  It takes a lot of questions away form the buyer and helps avoid lots of returns.  All showers I have attended in recent years have had registries.

Answer 5

baby shower registries are totally normal, and not rude at all.  The pricier items are usually bought by a group of people who all pitch in, like all of her coworkers or something.

Answer 6

It's not rude, but it was silly of her to expect pricey items.  Maybe you could go in with someone to buy one of the pricey items?

I had a baby registry (with inexpensive stuff)... nobody bought from it.  They all bought stuff they thought was cute.

Answer 7

I have never been to a baby shower in the past 5 years where the mom -to-be didnt have a registry. I think that it is common practice and extremely practical. It also discourages multiple similar gifts that the mom-to-be has to spend time going back to exchange (its hard enough being pregnant without having to do that!). If everything on the list is extremely pricey though, I do feel that is a little rude. She should have registered for a variety of different priced items to accomodate all of her guests.  

Answer 8

Sometimes it makes sense to have a registry - that way you end up with what you need and no duplicates.

She probably should have been more considerate when choosing pricey gifts - could you split the cost with another person?

I had a registry, but everyone I knew also did. It probably just depends on your friends and family customs.  

Answer 9

No, it is not rude.  

Answer 10

No it is not rude to have a registry for a  baby/bridal shower that is what they are for so everyone will not come with the same gifts. However I thing everyone would agree, keep it to a limit. I had to tell my niece, you did this we did not do it to you so the pricey stuff get daddy or his parents to buy it. You don't just put everything in the store over $25 on a registry!!!!!!!!! Good luck

Answer 11

Sometimes groups of people get together to make one big purchase... they pool their money. Her parents might be interested in getting her something larger...

Registries are to give you an idea of what she wants and ensure she doesn't get duplicates of some of the larger, only need one of type of things... (i.e. stroller, car seat, crib, etc). If you don't want to get her something from the registry, don't.  

Answer 12

Registries are made so that you don't get 2 of the same thing. I don't think it's right to ask for an $800 stroller if you know your family can't afford it. That's just greedy, and you end up getting something stupid rather than what you need.