Is it rude to refuse a gift from a man whom you're not interested with?

Question

.. who's apparently interested in you

Answer 1

no you just tell them thanks but that you dont' feel right receiving it and dont' period.

Answer 2

don't do it.  you are selling yourself.

Answer 3

not at all.  I think it would be rude to accept it.  It would give him false intentions if you take it.  

Answer 4

I think it depends on the gift. I once had a teddy bear and flowers delivered to my home from a secret admirer. Although this person that sent them to me did not sign their name on the card. I wasn't sure at first who it was, so I played the same game he played by not mentioning it to anyone. It obviously drove him nuts to know if I got the gift or not, since he spent good money on it. Finally the admirer came forward and hinted around the secret gift. I was not attracted to this admirer so I was completely honest with him. I told him that I was really surprised and enjoyed the gift but I wanted to let him know that I didn't feel that way about him. You should never refuse a gift that someone spent time and money on for you. You should show your appreciation and then be honest with how you feel. Unless you received something very extravagant that you don't think you can accept, let's say diamond earrings. Then you should again show your appreciation and then be honest by saying you don't think you can accept them and you don't feel the same way in return.

Answer 5

I think that show ya got class.

Answer 6

I would say refuse it.  Your choices are: take it and lead him on, or refuse and hurt his feelings but at least then he will understand you are not interested.

Answer 7

yes it is, are you crazy, you will be asking for trouble

Answer 8

Yes it's a little rude but it's better than leading him on. If you're really not interested, don't be afraid to be a little rude if it gets the message across.

Answer 9

no, inherently not.

Answer 10

It's the right thing to do, especially if the present is an expensive item.  If you accept the gift, he will take it for a green light and may ask you for "something" back...

Answer 11

no its not stupid.

its the right thing to do.

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Answer 12

I think if you refuse the gift with a polite explanation as to why it isn't rude.

Answer 13

No. Refuse it. I suppose that depends on the gift. Now, I am thinking like a man. Sorry. No, I have tried to offer gifts to women I like and if they don't like me back they won't accept.

A g*y friend of mine bought me a terrific sweater from Ambercombie and it's great. My wife loves the sweater. It must have cost the dude a small fortune, and I know he has a partner. I am not g*y but it was too good an Xmas gift to pass up.

A man would take the gift. A woman would refuse the gift.

Now you decide.

Answer 14

no, its smart. because if you accept it, he will take that as a sign that you want him

Answer 15

its stupid.

Answer 16

this is pritty clear ground. do not accept gifts from men, (period).  unless of course it is your husband or boy freind. I see women do this knowing they have no intrest. it a heartbeat away from immoral

Answer 17

No it is not rude.  Just tell him thanks but no thanks.  If you accept he will get the wrong idea or think since you accepted you are into him.

Answer 18

Well, if it's something small, than just accept it, so as not to embarrass him.  But if it's something expensive, then I would refuse it, so that he doesn't feel that you owe him anything, since some guys are like that.  Plus, I'd feel like a jerk to accept a diamond bracelet or something from a guy that I knew didn't have a chance with me.  Just say (privately) to him, "I'm sorry, but I just couldn't accept this".