Is it scary to live alone after divorce?

Question

I don't think my marriage will work? I have never been truely loved by anyone. All are with me for their self. Not for love. So I never felt love. My husband, we dont feel that closeness, I wonder why he married me. He says he loves me, but I never see that love. It hurts. What have I done in my love that I never got my true love. I feel lonely. My ex who cheated on me, afer that I was completely devastated. Never could believe my ex bf would ever cheat me. Then when my husband said he loves me I thought see, I always say no to guys who loves me and run behind the wrong ones. So I said yes, but now I dont see that was very true. Dont know why he married me. I feel so lonely. My ex's huge apology, but u know what I can't even trust a bit again as a friend also. I am not having any affair, once in a while a casual talk. My husband lives his life, I am so lnely. What shall I do? I am not able to divorce because of family pressure and worry. I cant believe people around me made my life such miserable..Is it bad to be alone? How should I handle this mess?

Answer 1

pixie is right! listen to her. about living by yourself.. i love it!!! no more washing his clothes, feeding him, listening to his cripping ect. ect. ect. live alone till you find yourself... and love yourself, then you will find the right person.. take some time to get to know yourself....

Answer 2

I don't mean to be cruel but it looks like your blaming everyone else for your misery but you are the one who makes you miserable.  If you were not truly loved by anyone why would they marry you?  It sounds like you have very low self esteem and maybe you are in self destruct mode.  If you are that miserable maybe you are making those around you miserable.  You have the why me syndrome.  Why not try to change your outlook and be more positive.  Think of the reasons why people would love you not why they wouldn't.  Also maybe you should get yourself some counseling.  You have to love yourself before someone else can love you.  Be more positive.  It really helps. Start now.  You will be surprised.

Answer 3

Your life is this way because YOU have allowed it. You NEED to love yourself first before anyone can love you...if you don't, then people around you will surely take advantage of that. People around you have only made your life miserable because you have let them. No one has that power. Learn to love yourself. This is YOUR life and not anyone else's. Think of yourself and how you deserve to live it...HAPPY. Remember....GIRL POWER!

Answer 4

I packed my kids and pet and left.  Went to a shelter and started over.  I have gained much more than I lost (materially).  My greatest acquirement is my Peace and my kids are happy.  I am not going to lie, I get very lonely, but, I've resolved to be lonely and just ask God to hold me until "real and true love" comes along.  I don't want to be used and abused anymore and I still believe there is someone out there for me.  I try to make friends and stay away from those that I know are not friends.  

My family members that couldn't understand...well, they weren't helping when I was with the jerk.  So with that said: you are in control of your destiny and your happiness and anything worth having, is hard to get, especially Peace.  I have mine... and much more of it than loneliness.

If you get too lonely, get on Yahoo Answers and help someone else like I do :)

Also: God has brought many positive people in my life, a new and better apartment, better living area, schools and friends for myself and my kids.  I have such a great network now (daycare provider, school, new job) that I -while I contemplate it sometime when I get real lonely - I wouldn't trade our new Peace and happiness for my old misery.

Answer 5

you can live alone, you can do it, it's not easy though.  get involved in church, i'm doing it.  

Answer 6

if you think you can live alone until you grow old.. so, be it..

but make sure to yourself that you can stand on what decision you will make.. find hobby that suits you..

it will help you a lot by moving on..

Answer 7

I never thought my ex gf would cheat on me but that is life.

There is nothing scary about living alone.

Dont let them get the best of you!

I moved on and I am ok.

I picked up hobbies that keep me busy

just stay active