Is it shallow to like a guy just cause he's a feminist?

Question

What are your thoughts? :-)

Answer 1

No, but it's kind of a basic prerequisite.  For men, there are really only two options:  feminist and Neanderthal.

Answer 2

Don't be fooled, the "feminist" will soon try to bed you.  Although, if he is truely a feminist, he might be g*y.

Answer 3

No, it's not shallow because he obviously shares one of your views and something that I'm guessing is quite important to you. However, that probably shouldn't be the only reason you chose to pursue the relationship, assuming that is what your asking.

Answer 4

Yes, it is. He could have a thousand other negative things about that you're dismissing just because he's a feminist.

I think any guy who says he's feminist is really just out to get into your pants.

Answer 5

it depends on your definition of a feminist - personally i prefer to be around people that view genders equally but different.  I wouldn't call that THE reason for attraction, just one of many qualifiers.  If it's your only reason, you really need to meet more men (socially, not sexually).

Answer 6

"Just cause"? Yes. But I don't see any reason why it shouldn't impress you. Many guys have a defensive, reactionary, ill-informed response to feminism, so to me it's very nice to see a male bold enough to recognize the relevance of the feminist movement.

If a guy says I'm a feminist, it says to me that he's very thoughtful. He bothered to examine the problems of a demographic that was not his own and be informed about them.  

Of course you should grill him about what he means by that in case he -is- actually getting into your pants, but unlike what Organic Snark said, many are too dumb to figure out that that's a good tactic. (I can't tell you the amount of debates I've had about feminism with guys who were trying to get into my pants.)

Answer 7

not at all shallow is liking him cuz his looks if you like his personality and the fact thats he is femminist then thts fine

Answer 8

If your group said you need a hairy bull type of man that is milked each day to be happy then you know what they like. Are you in your best group of friends.

Answer 9

It would be shallow to date someone strictly because of their political beliefs. I wouldn't date a hard right-winger, but I wouldn't go out with any random liberal, either.

Answer 10

He must be easy to the eyes, cause feminist or not, ya got to be able to look at him with some sort of desire, if you know what I mean...

Answer 11

Its obviously a positive to you because he treats you like an equal and not as though hes superior.

but if it is the only reason then I dont think its shallow but i also dont see it a as a positive as you cant base a friendship or relationship just on someones views their has to be other factors which make why you get on so welll and connect and with a relationship there has to be initial attraction for it to work. You need the whole package of what you think are peoples best qualities as it wont last very long in any terms if its based on just one hunch or feeling as everything changes through time and other things become priorities.

So if he ticks other boxes on your wish list then go for it but if not make sure you have other common ground and find him attractive, and he makes you laugh etc before you thinks hes the man of your dreams and go into the relationship with your head buried in the sand

good luck

Answer 12

not shallow but it seems like if you don't like the other stuff that makes up 99.9% of his personality then the relationship would be short lived.

Answer 13

No it is stupid.  

Any man who is a feminist is either stupid or trying to increase the chances of getting his leg over.  

Any woman who is a feminist is either stupid or ignorant of the history of feminism as well as the true nature of modern feminism.

Answer 14

Yes because there is no such thing as a guy feminist. A feminist is a female who likes liberation and equality with males. So how can a guy be a feminist. If you mean a sympathiser then yes. We all are to some degree so that's out as well. Is he nice to you? then go for it

Answer 15

DEFINITELY NOT but you have to make sure and get a full evaluation of all his other personality traits to make sure nothing is wrong with him

Good for you. I wish all men were feminist. The world would a safe place for women and children.

Answer 16

I wound never date a man who did not have feminists leanings.  I'm not saying he must be active in the movement.  I'm not active per se.  But if he thinks he is superior, or that God created me solely to be his helpmate, why date him, or marry him?  If I want to be a slave, I would rather be the beneficiary of my own servitude.

Answer 17

I know a bud of mine who is a feminist and go to lesbians bars and guess what? the dog is having the p***y by the pound for real

Answer 18

Shallow?  No.  Clearly, dating a person who respects the rights of a woman (as opposed to one that doesn't) is in your best interest.  But it could be other things, depending on what kind of feminist he is.

After all, you have the "equality" feminists, who generally believe that men and women are different, but should be treated equally in all legal and moral senses of the word. (this is probably 90% of feminists, and is a clear improvement over the old-fashioned patriarchal "barefoot and pregnant" crowd.)

Then you have the more "radical" feminists, who appear to believe that men and woman should be treated equally in ALL walks of life, no matter what real differences in ability may exist - thus you must have lower physical standards for women in physically demanding jobs, because they tend to have less upper-body strength. (Maybe 9.999%)

And then you have the "female supremacist" feminists, (and there really are a few of these out there) who are the kind that write things like "all s*x is rape" and wouldn't consent to have males around at all if it wasn't for the need to produce more (female) heirs to inherit a "wymyn's world."  (.0001%)  I don't think any rational men belong to this group.

(Personally, I think this last group is batsh** insane, and just the reverse of the old Patriarchal garbage, but your mileage may vary).

Answer 19

no, it isn't any more shallow than liking him for having any other trait in common with you. If you like a guy, remember to look at his other traits too though. He could be using feminism to cover up major personality flaws.

Answer 20

lmao , listen to you people go on lol, what makes a lot of you thank a guy is even interested in that way just because he agrees with feminism? after all it is if you like him or not the question said nothing about him looking to get in a relationship.

o and to answer the question ah no it is not shallow to like a guy for believing in feminism........ but it is shallow to only want that in a man.

Answer 21

Because my femimism is not about adhering to ideology, it is all about striving for equality of opportunity and basic human rights for women, I would have to say I would prefer your man to have said he has empathy for feminist perspectives on life rather than say 'I'm a feminist' And naturally, he could say this and still be a racist, ageist, homophobic, disablist a*****e!

Answer 22

Actually no. Because you’re going to have more of an attraction to him because you’ll feel more comfortable around him. You’ll feel less threatened, and you’ll trust him more because you believe that he’ll be able to identify with you more vs. a guy you know nothing about. You and he more than likely have the same views on a lot of issues pertaining to women and women’s rights, so you feel like he’s one of the girls almost (The booty and the buddy at the same time). I think it’s hot when I run into a guy that is not so centered in what makes him a man vs. what makes him and everyone around him human; thus spawning his respect for both sexes and people of other races, creeds, and maybe even religious. Who is this guy and does his have single friends? My home girl is looking for a guy with these qualities, can you hook her up?

Answer 23

Not necessarily shallow, but unwise.   I'm not sure what you mean by like.  Do you mean romantically or as a friend?   Just because this aspect of his politics appeals to you, doesn't make him a great guy or a match.

Answer 24

i have to agree with the first answer. if you like a guy jsut for one thing its so not good. i wouldnt understand why a guy would be deep into feminism without being desperate to get laid or have sexual questions about himself

Answer 25

How @ an equalist? As in, what's good for da goose is good 4 da gander?

Confession: my wacky Scouse wit reminded me of chattin' to chatty charmer Collette @ Liverpool Arena Box Office, as I got my ticket for 10 July International Beatles "Imagine: The Concert" - (in Summer Pops series on there till @ the end of July)

I said, "Don't ya just love men who are adept @ feignin' feminism to save money, sayin' @ wouldn't dream of insultin' ya by offerin' to buy your ticket: don't wanna make ya feel like a bought woman, do I?" Google women's all-time fave  Radio Times cover (George's neck kneaded by hands-on-women Mildred & pal!)

Paul Simon there tonight Fancy group discount for it?

Or 2nd Aussie Pink Floyd Show - focussin' on "Dark Side Of The Moon" & "Animals"?

Or Blondie & The Stranglers? Or The Rat Pack?

http://www.accliverpool.com 4 details

Answer 26

yes and no.

yes because maybe u just admire his philosophies or the fact that he's not like everybody else.

no because u might have seen in him the respect deserved by a woman that's not given by many men. he could be a good friend and a good listener if he completely understand that u'r standing on same grounds despite gender differences

Answer 27

who told you you have to worry about "being shallow"?

and what does that even mean?

what would be things to decide you like him for which'd equal NOT shallow?

(*q's for u to answer..equals your answer)

Answer 28

no, that could be an interesting point of conversation...I assume you like him for that and other reasons...give him a chance and see what he is like.  it is better than liking a chauvinist.

Answer 29

well am i wrong to see wemen in a really good way...your not shallow..you just never had the company of a guy hwo dosent want to get in between your legs all the time.lol

Answer 30

No way, hun! It's the opposite of shallow and I'll tell you why. Too many people out there just judge a possible boy/girlfriend by there looks, status, how well they sweep them off their feet, etc. Now that's shallow. But you actually go deeper and care about a guy's beliefs. That's great :)

Also, I could never be with a guy as his girlfriend unless he was a feminist. Beliefs are very important to me.

Answer 31

If he was brought up by a single mum then yes, if he was brought up by two parents then no.