Is it shallow to not date a fat person...?

Question

because they are fat? I was making an argument to my friend that it's not shallow at all, and I felt my logic was pretty reasonable, however, this friend was stubborn, lacking the capacity to open their mind.

I don't think it is shallow for 3 very good reasons:

1. It says something about a person's personality when they are fat. It shows a lack of will power and a weak ability to control of oneself.

2. It indicates that the person is highly inactive, and would not enjoy doing many activities that most healthy people enjoy doing. Therefore, that person would not be that fun to have around.

3. It's unattractive, plain and simple. Nothing wrong with wanting some sort of attractiveness.

For some reason people think that a person who refuses to date fat people is shallow, but to me it seems completely reasonable, and might be more noble than it is shallow. What do you think?

Answer 1

I don't think it's necessarily shallow.You should date someone you feel attracted to and some people just prefer to date slimmer people.Some others prefer to date larger people.It all comes down to personal preferences I think.

Answer 2

It is very shallow. People are large for various reasons, look at the little 11 month only baby that is weighing in at 67 pounds. It is not because he or his parents have no self control it is that he has a thyroid problem. There are many causes to weight gain. Besides, looks are not everything. I am in shape (well was, I am pregnant now) and my husband is in shape. But I did date a fat man once, but he turned out to be fat because he was an alcoholic with little control of anything.

Answer 3

i think you are dead on. but in America the society we live in we do not want to offend anyone or hurt their feelings. everything has to be ribbons and bows. heaven forbid we offend anyone. now if there is a fat person that i find their personality to be attractive i would give them a shot because i think we would have fun but yes you are right with all of your points. Your friend just wants to be "everyone gets a ribbon for trying" society. i mean its pathetic.

Answer 4

if you are attracted to them but wont date them because they are fat then that is shallow. if it is simply becuase you arent attracted to fat people then its ok.

i sometimes feel bad because im not really attracted to black guys but i cant help it.

im not racist i just dont feel the same way about them.

Answer 5

nah i dont think its shallow !!

i would never date a really fat person either !! ewww!!

Answer 6

nooooo its not shallow. i personally probably wouldnt date one either. its a matter of weather you are attracted to them or not. its not rude.

Answer 7

When I was younger I always thought I had to have the most attractive girl in town.However when I got older I realized that the plain Janes usually had the best personality. Because they were not stuck on their self.I have never dated an over weight girl,but I would be open to it.

Answer 8

What about the people who do work out or do eat right, and yet they can't seem to get rid of their large belly? That is my boyfriend. He has a great personality, is very intelligent, strong. Just because you are fat, doesn't always mean that you have a low self esteem. I went out with him because we have so much in common and he makes me happy. Oh and don't say it's for money either. We make the same amount of money and have enough to pay our bills and go out once in a while.

Answer 9

1; it says that they are not perfect, just like you

2; it does not indicate inactivity: my sister overeats to excess and is therefor overweight, but she is very active (a big fat dynamo as she puts it) - she just eats way too much

3; if you find it unattractive, that is your opinion

I do think it is shallow, because you are judging someone based on how they look without any other information.

Many fat people make up for their appearance with great personalities, awesome sense of humour, and other qualities that you lack, like compassion.