Is it sign of autism?should i talk to her ,or her parents?

Question

if you are a school counselor and a girl catch your interest she is always alone and seems to be in her world ,sometimes she looks at you in the eyes but most of the times she doesn’t look at anyone ,or notice no one ,her grades are good and well ,is it a nature or sign of autism sometimes. She doesn’t see who is walking in the same path as she walks and she stands awkwardly ,no one in the school stands like her,

Should i talk to her

Answer 1

Are you a doctor?

Then probably not.

I'm sure her parents already know if that is the case.

Answer 2

That isn't autism if her grades are good.

We call that shyness.

Yes you could but she might run, depends on how she is feeling.

Answer 3

There is a lot more to diagnosing autism than that!  I'm sure her parents would have noticed if she wasn't developing or interacting with others. I don't think you should confront the child, but if you are still concerned about it then mention it to her teacher or the principal.

Answer 4

Talk to her. Maybe she has problems at home and is just very withdrawn. Being isolated and withdrawn doesn't make somebody unintelligent. Her education may be the only thing she isn't blocking out if her home life is painful. It takes a lot of strength to become so withdrawn so that nobody can touch you and still be living and waiting to be free to make your own choices.

I don't think shyness is a sign of autism. Aren't counsellors supposed to be non-judgemental? It does sound like she needs help.

Answer 5

Firstly, Tapestry, there are plenty of people within the Autistic Spectrum with good grades - so please do not judge a book by it's title!

She may be depressed or shy - if she was on the Autistic Spectrum the school and health services would have picked up on that - but this would be private.

Please talk to her - she could be so lonely and in need of a friend to boost her confidence.

Answer 6

I was the same way all through school. I think she's just shy. I had really low self confidence, but I'm getting over it now. I'm leaving for college in a week, and I'm pretty much over the shyness. You can try to help, but she probably doesn't want attention drawn to her, and just wants to work it out on her own.

Answer 7

With all due respect, I have to agree with the person who said that you have terrible punctuation for an alleged counselor.  Furthermore, a true counselor would already know the answer to how to handle this situation.

No, I wouldn't automatically assume that she has autism.  Perhaps she's shy, or has something going on at home.  A true counselor would approach her teachers about it, and perhaps set up an appointment to talk to her.

Answer 8

It doesn't really sound like autism. It sounds more of a case of a child being shy and therefore unsociable.

Answer 9

HOLD ON A MINUTE my sons school thought he had signs of Autism lol, they put us through a lot or worry as I had never notice and should of having worked with adult Autistic people. BUT after 6 months of waiting for assessment, and finally asking the teacher when they were going to do it i was told that no he wasn´t and they had got it wrong, he was a highly strung boy who was easily stress and didn´t know how to bring himself down from stressful situations, and so avoided things and kept himself to himself because he worried a lot. My stress head son now has breathing exercises to do when stressed and has to talk to us more about his feelings and am waiting to get him refered to counselling so he can express himself. DON´T JUDGE WHAT YOU DON´T UNDERSTAND, and what has it got to do with you.

He is a very intelligent 9yr  boy who thinks about things way too much for his age, and so sees all the pit falls of life, worrying about silly things

From a mother put through h**l by schools wishing to label son.

Answer 10

Autism why does everything these days always have autism thrown at them, first off how old is this girl you do not say, and secondly do you anything about Autism to be able to speak to her parents ?

Personally as a mum to a child with Autism i think you should keep out of it, her grades are good ...well whats the problem if her grades were bad and her school work was suffering her teacher should talk to them and not you

Answer 11

I would say no, but judge for yourself.

http://www.webmd.com/brain/autism/autism...

Answer 12

It doesn't sound like there's anything to discuss here!  Her grades are good, who cares how she stands or if she rarely looks people in the eyes. Even if she were autistic (which is much more than a few social challenges), what purpose would there be to giving her a diagnosis now when she seems to be managing well without one.  Slapping a label on her forehead serves no practical purpose and can only make her feel even more odd...a rose is a rose no matter what you call it.  Now if you feel she's unhappy with her lack of friends you could discuss that (keeping in mind that some people genuinely don't enjoy large amounts of social interaction ...and that's okay too).  Other than that, relax, "not being like everyone else" is not fatal!

Answer 13

You should assume it's shyness, but talk to her parents on the phone or something like that, before you talk to her. If you don't have all the info. talking to her would be awkward.

Answer 14

maybe she's just not social?

Kinda weird person.  

Answer 15

For a school counselor your punctuation leaves a lot to be desired.  Why do you want to "talk" to her?  Do you want a chat?  Do you want to get her diagnosed autistic?  What?????!