Is it silly at 17 to think that i'm not going to find anyone?

Question

and does anyone else feel like this?

see, i'm 17 and i'm scared of being alone. i have been dating the same boy for 1.5 years but lately our relationship has gotten pretty rocky and there is no spark there anymore.

i'm starting to doubt myself as a person and thinking maybe that i'm not very lovable and that if this relationship ends i'm never going to find anyone else.

Answer 1

cut it out!!!  are you really mature enough to be dating?  if you think at 17 that you wont ever find another guy then you shouldnt be dating yet.

if you are on rocky ground then this one is already over.  dont worry and just wait for someone that likes you just the way you are now.  treat yourself as someone special and be yourself.  the right guy will like you for you.

Answer 2

i felt completely the same way as you, then i found my soul mate 19 and married each other at 23, where nearly 30 now and still have the spark.

so theres no need to think like that coz literally theres plenty of fish in the sea for you, just give it more time.

Answer 3

Yes it is. (I love easy questions) ;)

Answer 4

no. everyone doubts stuff and themselves at times. when your with someone for a long time you see what they really are like and sometimes that can be scary.

i used to doubt my relationship with my bf until we almost broke up for good becuase i was in another state for a while.i realized that i didn't know what i had until it was almost gone!

i think your fear is that if your relationship ends that you might not find someone else like him.

its okay to doubt yourself and situations with other people, and maybe if there is no spark it would be good for the both of you to move on. but stay as friends?

Answer 5

yes it's really silly to think that way, I am 27, still single, never been kissed,  

Answer 6

So what is it exactly that scares you? Could it be that you are right around the corner from 18 and are worried about going into the real world without some sort of safety blanket?

I know allot of people who got married because of this and by the time they turned 21 (and could drink legally), they figured out the real world wasn't so hard and they should have just waited.

In answer to your qusetion, yes it is kinda silly.

First, recognize your fears for what they truly are.

Second, figure out how to get over those fears.

Answer 7

yea

uve just never been love struck

Answer 8

You will find someone else of course! I don't believe that anyone is not lovable. :)

Answer 9

Yes it's silly to think that.  Seriously, get out there and date around. here are so many different types of people and you will learn what attributes you like or don't like.  You will find there are many that you didn't even know you wanted.

Answer 10

Mind over matter REALLY makes a difference. Don't get in the habit of saying that to yourself. Because when you say something long enough you start to believe it and believe me... confidence is the key. No matter what you look like

Answer 11

Sounds like you have some pretty low self esteem.  You don't need a mate to be loved, first of all.  If you have friends (real friends) and any family, you have love.  I'm sure you're very lovable.  And yes, it's very silly to think that at 17.  You'll definately not stay with this boy forever, and you'll most likely be with many more guys before you get with the person you'll be with forever.  You may even change your mind and decide not to ever get married or stay in a serious relationship.  You need to work on yourself and once you make yourself who you want to be, you may realize that you don't need another person in order to be complete.  You are a whole person, whether you feel that way or not right now.  I suggest sitting down and really thinking about you and what you want to do (as in YOU, not you and so-and-so).  If you can manage to do that, you'll be much happier (and stronger) for it.  Peace.

Answer 12

you're only 17, in fact it's crazy to try to link yourself to one person at so young an age. you'll find many people after him, some even better than him. I'm 17, but I know that when the time is right, the right person will just pop in out of thin air...

Answer 13

I was a really ugly guy at your age, sorry to say but the truth is that most people your age guys and girls go for looks and are very shallow, not saying your ugly or anything cos I don't know, but I'm 3'7 now and and now have defined facial features and actually married my high school crush and have a beautiful little girl.

Answer 14

Yes it is a tad silly. I bet you've been through many relationships or are unhappy with yourself. You have you're whole life ahead of you so don't fret. There is a person out there for everyone.

I know it. =)

Answer 15

You have alot of years to find someone.  Don't think that way, cause you'll actually start to believe it, and you may subconsciously begin to sabotage your relationships because you don't feel very lovable.

Have some confidence in yourself.  The right guy will come along, you just have to have patience.

Answer 16

I'm sorry but yes it's very silly.

Who you are today is not who you will be years from now. Things you like and the people you like will change. Your taste in men will change and you might even turn into your parents. LOL! Just relax focus on you and don't worry.

Answer 17

real silly. u havnt even ventured out enough at 17 to meet ppl. u still have college and bars and clubs later on down the road. trust me ur gonna meet alot of ppl in ur life yet

Answer 18

a lot of people...A LOT

feel the exact same way, kind of hopeless and scared

that no one else will come along in their lives

but trust me, someone will

youre still so young, you've got so much time

dont worry so much about it! the right one will come along!

hope this helps!

Answer 19

You are young.

If having a relationship is important to you, you will find one.

And you do not need a relationship to define yourself.

If you are single for the rest of your life, what does it matter?

Work on yourself, your education, your career, and building a life for yourself to be happy in.  If a man (or woman) comes a long that you want to share your life with, that also fits with your life, good for you.  If not, who cares?

Answer 20

yes it is

Answer 21

you just havent found the right person. if you keep a smile and a topic on hand, then your always good to go! especially when it comes to dating =D

Answer 22

Are you kidding me?  I didn't meet my husband until I was 28.  Don't be in too much of a hurry.  You're only young, enjoy life before you settle down.

Answer 23

Yes, you have your entire life ahead of you. Some people don't date at all in high school. And I think that the reason that your relationship may be rocky is because you sound like you are saying that you are only in one because you fear being alone? That is not a reason to be in a relationship and so this is prob why you feel that way. You don't need another half to complete you. If you feel that way then that is not good. But you will find someone don't worry. I'm also 17 and I know how scary it is.  

Answer 24

yes sure , do n worry  

Answer 25

im also 17 and i felt like this before

like i would never find anyone at all

but then i did find someone and it happened unexpectidley

trust me your guy will come to you

and it will happen when you least expect it

thats how it happened to me

Answer 26

All are interested in variety entertainment.

Answer 27

Yes, i wouldn't say silly, you should really focus on yourself.  

Answer 28

I felt like that, and didn't meet anyone I wanted to be with until I was nearly 19... it was well worth the wait! believe me!  

Answer 29

ur 17 u hav another 35 years to find someone who needs men when u can enjoy ur life! go travel hav a few flings then in ur 20's start looking

Answer 30

just because the relationship youre in at the moment isnt working out, doesnt mean all youre relationships are going to be duds!

keep your chin up:]

youll find someone

it just takes time