Is it so bad to be a nice guy?

Question

ive noticed recently that when im being nice towards my friends its usually being taken in the wrong way, like especially with the girls.

i mean i walk them home, call them up everyonce in a while to see how they're doing, offer to pay for dinner and such. and it usually ends up that they assume i like them. but in reallity im just trying to be nice. part of the reason im nice is cuz there arent many nice guys out there who are nice to girls, and girld deserve some kindness because theyre kind to others with the exceptions of some bit@#@ out there. but yea

Is it wrong to be a nice guy? Should i stop being a nice guy?

Answer 1

yes, they are the last ones that usually get laid

Answer 2

Yeah, I dont like guys like you because you unintentionally lead girls on. I am a nice person, but i dont go as far as you do because I am aware of what my actions may be intrepreted as by the other person. And obviously you are too because you wrote that the girls assume you like them, so my question to you is are you really a nice guy or do you just like girl attention? Because you are messing with people's emotions here and breaking a lot of hearts.

Answer 3

No, it isn't. You're actually one of first guys that I've seen that actually has respect for girls. Maybe try to make sure you're not sending out the wrong signal. But, really, don't stop being a nice guy.

Answer 4

Yes, there is a lot wrong with you being a nice guy.  People in general but especially women perceive you as being weak when you are too nice, whether they admit it or not.

Think about it.   Haven't you ever noticed that all the hot women are with these guys that are Jerks and treat them like c**p?  there when they probably turn around and come crying to you.  There is a reason for it.

I can show you some stuff that will blow your mind about howwomen think. I cant say much considering they are reading this.  If you're really interested about knowing more, you can shoot me an email .

Whether you like them or not.  They should be calling you and they should also be buying you dinner.   Honestly, thats the way it works with me.

Answer 5

It's very bad to be a nice guy, and it's not something you can stop. Nice guys are nice because they're ugly. nice guys have high standards. Sorry, tough $hit.  

Answer 6

Let me tell you my story.

When I was at summer school (to kill time, not because I failed), there was this girl in my class who was being the door holder. This girl moved to my high school second semester and just happened to be in my history class. Anyway, at summer school, she was holding the door open and her friends were calling her names (like stupid, funny-looking, etc.). Being the nice guy, I said "Guys, that's not her name." She asks, "Do you know what my name is?" I say "Yeah, your name is Ruth. You were in my history class." After that, every time I did a presentation, she stared at me, and every time we needed to work with a partner, she came to me. Not to mention she giggled every time she said my name.

Also, there was this girl waiting in line to check in her books at the library. Her friend was pressuring her to hurry up so they could go. I asked "Hey do you want to cut in front of me so you could go?" She said "Oh, sure!" She left, glancing at my ID and behind giggles she said "Thank you so much!" In class, she started talking to me. A year later she wanted me to be her boyfriend. During summer break, she wanted to "get together" with me.

So, unless you don't want to attract attention from girls, then keep being nice. It seems to work for me. Kind, polite guys, according to some people, are a rarity and girls really like that. And no, it's not wrong. In my case, I just try to be nice because it's part of my personality, but some girls take it as "He's my future boyfriend!"

Girls, eh?

Answer 7

no omq even tho we might think u like us

we think it is SO sweeeeet

its cute and nice and everythinqq

dont worry keep beinqq nice lol

theyll understand

if not

they are not worth it