Is it so wrong for women to express sexual needs and desire, or should we always hide what we feel & want ?

Question

Could we ever actually go out and look for what we desire?

or is it only right to suppress it until we have a relationship?

Answer 1

it's 2008;  go out and look,  express your needs and desires.

Answer 2

As a human you are equal in every way, and as an equalist i say you have the right to peruse your own happiness, others don't have the right to judge you, remember you are a moral person, and with freedom comes responsibility

So we all have to exercise that responsibility wisely

I find that there is a difference between, self-gratification and self-fulfilment

I believe self-fulfilment is the longer journey but also longer lasting and more rewarding, also less destructive to others

Be strong, be true to yourself, be happy

Answer 3

Depends on the results you none of them are wrong per-se, just results.

You express your sexual desires with lots of other people - you will be viewed as less worthy of time for a relationship.

You express your sexual desire in a relationship only and shun it from outside and you wont be viewed as expressive of it.

And many shades and colours in between that I havent pointed out.

What sort of results do you want to attain?

Answer 4

yes it's so wrong not express what you want after all it's your feelings and body so just do it.  

Answer 5

no way!!! thats so 1950s! i always express what i want i look for s*x if i want it and tell my man when i want s*x, and i get it! we are liberated now lady!

Answer 6

It is not wrong at all. The only thing that could be wrong is how they are expressed and where they are expressed.

You wouldn't want a potential partner to come up to you and the first words out his/her mouth are what they are imagining doing with you.

Just follow the same rules of expressing to others, the rules that you expect them to follow when expressing themselves to you.

You should do fine. The men I know (myself) really appreciate that kind of behavior and expression from women. Nothing can be sexier or a bigger turn on than to be out on a date and have the woman lean over and wisper in my ear how she is desiring me while stroking me almost anywhere.  

Answer 7

We should show that we want to be loved, protected and appreciated by our husband but it is not right for a woman to "want" s*x for the sake of having s*x. All we women want is love and protection. We don't have urges like men.  

Answer 8

You are a very angry though s**y feminist, but I demand that you bring back the old avatar for otherwise I will no longer wish to enter discourse with you, you sweet, sweet lady you ;)

Now you've made me angry, but this may lead to better love-making, but nonetheless, I demand that the old Avatar be brought back at once!

Do you hear me, s**y feminist or do you not hear me?  

Answer 9

you should express your needs and desires, but it's all about how to do it whith out looking cheap or something like that.

Answer 10

You should wait until you have found a right minded chap to please...and for pities sake...don't drive!

Answer 11

um no its not wrong not at all. ive plenty of female friends who express thier desires and act on them quite openly and frequently (not with me)

Answer 12

No don't hide, i like it all

Answer 13

Hun, you can do whatever you'd like ... but the reaction from society may not be what you'd hope for (if that matters). We live once, let's actually live it!  ;)

Answer 14

I've never had a problem speaking up for what I want, and have never had a negative response.  Men love it when we take the initiative.

Answer 15

I'll answer with a question: why should women be any different to men?

We should look for what we want, whenever we want, as long as we're not harming or hurting anyone by doing so.

Answer 16

as long as you're not lusting for underage boys(which is often the case) then i don't see what's wrong with expressing your sexual needs.

of course, you don't seem to like it very much when men express their sexual desires(unless those men are attractive), so then why do you expect to be allowed to express yourself as you please?

edit: scottishgirl, you hate it when guys look at you like that, so then why should you do the same? treat people the way you want to be treated, right?

Answer 17

No it is not wrong. A lot of women already do so. That being said, it will affect what kind of man you're likely to be with. Some men who belong to certain cultures (I'm Chinese and I know we tend to have this kind of mentality) prefer women who are capable of self restraint and would not be attracted to women who dress like, behave like or otherwise give the impression that that woman cannot control herself. Thus, expressing sexual needs or desires can be a barrier to some relationships, but it might just be that we are a bit different. One biology professor of mine once jokingly speculated that this is a form of behaviorally guided speciation and that we Chinese are going to become our own species, but I digress.

If you're living in a free country (I'm guessing you live in America), you are free to do as you wish. There is no law in the books that says you cannot have the personality delineated by your question. You have the right to be happy and if that's what makes you happy, do it, because an uncomfortable situation will might cause you more problems.

Answer 18

In my opinion, I think whether your in a relationship or not you should always express your wants needs desires and feelings and you should never hide or suppress them.

Answer 19

No, it's not wrong.  I looked for it whenever I was single because I'm very sexual and enjoy all kinds of s*x play.  I also m********e and have a great collection of toys, and I use them whether I'm single or not.  You may find people who think that it is only right to suppress it until a person is in a relationship, but those people do not control your life.  Do what you want, and use a condom!

Answer 20

You do as you please know one should judge anybody you only live once just be safe

Answer 21

I dont think so, I find a woman who is able to do that real attractive.

Answer 22

No

Answer 23

I do not think it is wrong but societies tend to make women feel evil and wicked if they pursue their sexual needs like men. Hence America. Personally, I feel that women want and think about s*x just as much and sometimes more than men. Women should express themselves as such if they want to.

Answer 24

I love women that express their sexual needs and desires

Dosent matter if its in a relationship or not

Answer 25

Women, in a relationship or not, should be able to fully explore their sexuality without feeling a need to hide behind male set standards.

Answer 26

If guys can look at us with cheap appreciation and just a deisre for s*x then i dont see why we cant do the same =P

enjoy being single, i say!!

Answer 27

years ago, you would have probably been burned at the stake  for even suggesting this idea !.and even more recently probably have been sent to a mental institution , but as luck would 'av it , you can now go out and "hunt " for what you want , and this is all good , people have been suppressed for centuries, women especially , but even now its still frowned upon , specially in the "not so advanced , religiously controlled , sadistic nations , its gonna take a long time for these places to overcome their  fear of freedom ,  go for it ! wata you gota loose ??