Is it so wrong to be a pregnant teenager?

Question

I'm 15 and about two months pregnant.

And trust me, being pregnant only for a short time so far has really opened my eyes.

Yet I have found out why being young and pregnant is so wrong to some people and all right for others.

Society looks down on us so greatly, sometimes even more than drug addicted teenagers.

I mean I have had a job and can support my own child when the time arrives.

So I guess I'm just looking for your opinions and explanations.

Its greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

its wrong if your a pregnant teenager and cannot provide a good life for your child. this is a CHILD coming into the world and you cannot look on it so lightly. this child is helpless and you are his/her mother and is YOUR responsiblitly

Answer 2

I don't get it either,I'm not a teen parent nor do I plan on,but I mean,my parents were teen parents,sure they didn't stay together but they got looked down on by so many people.

I don't understand people,if you get pregnant,it was an accident,it was just 2 teens finding them self both prepared to have s*x but when they did they just so happen to get a little gift along the way.but of course they didn't want to but it just happened.There will always be the kids who will save them self marriage and the ones who will have s*x whenever they think there ready and that could be in there teen years.and thats THEIR decsion,and people do not need to judge that nor what happens if something as a pregnancy occurs.

but thats how I see it,im not one of those people who will add on any extra bad feelings to a girl who already feels bad about getting  pregnant at such a young age.I know if that were ever to happen to me all I'd want is support and im sure thats what every pregnant teenage girl wants but with are society apparently alot of innocent mistakes made is like the end of the world.

Answer 3

Um, well wrong, I guess not but it's not the lifestyle I'd choose for myself. I have my whole life ahed of me and I'm not interested in a crying, pooping, barfing baby...yet.

More power to you I suppose...

Answer 4

No It's not wrong just irresponsible. My mom was pregnant with me at 15 in the 1990's and she had 3 jobs a day to support she and I and at times didn't have help from even our family. But we made it out okay. We had lived in bad places before but that's only because we couldn't afford to live in a good place on our own and now she's going back to college I'm in high school and she's extremely against me having s*x because she doesn't want me to get pregnant like she did. So no It's not wrong just irresponsible whether you had a condem or not when you have s*x there is always the chance something could go wrong.

Answer 5

What kind of job can a 15 year old have that would support a child???  Do you know what kind of life you will have on a minimum wage job?  How will you pay for daycare so you can go to work?

Answer 6

I dont think that you should worry what anyone else thinks. However I am a mom with a 14yr old and I would be devistated for her to be in that situation. Your body isnt fully mature yet so it can cause problems for you in your 2nd and 3rd trimester, premature births, low birth weight etc. But if you rest alot and eat all the right things and take your prenatal vitamins you should be fine...I guess my main concern is how did this happen? How long have you been sexually active? Having an intimate relationship can create as you know unexpected surprises and one that is welcome for a couple who is financially a little more stable. Is the father still in the picture? One thing to remember is that it took two to create this little person, so if decides its too much for him emotionally, he better be ready financially. It is 1/2 of his responsibilty financially to support this child. Good luck to you

Answer 7

Well, it just sounds like you're one of the luckier pregnant teenagers. You actually want the baby, you have a job to support and so does your boyfriend.

So, you do what you want. But I highly suggest you stay in school. Once the baby is grown enough, you will want to make something of your life. Go to college, get a degree of some kind and have a better job then minimum wage.

Answer 8

honestly your right people do look down on us like we worst then drug addicts. they think we ruin our lifes and blah blah balh. im three months pregnant and im 16  i have a boyfriend who is working and im working and we are both saving money. im staying in school and my boyfriend is starting college in september. i know from now on i have to think of my child first before anything. i still dont see in what way i have ruined my life.  

Answer 9

It's just because teenagers are still in school, don't have much experierence, money, etc. It's harder for teenagers to have a baby. I'm 18 and just had a baby boy 8 weeks ago. It's tough, but I love it, and you will too.

Answer 10

no it is not wrong to be a teenager and be pregnant.

this Society is stupid, you should be married and pregnant better yet 15 is not that old or young to be married, it is this secular Society that has screwed up everything. not you, the only thing bad I got to say is I wish you were married before you gave it up to him. so like where is he now?

y he no marry you ?

Answer 11

Well, I personally think it's wrong because it is a physical realization of what you have done wrong. A cause and effect thing. You had s*x, so now you have a baby. I also think that you shouldn't be so excited about the father being in the picture, because since you guys are 15, he won't be there after high school. Im sorry. But I think that once you actually get pregnant, you shouldn't dwell on it. Like, don't go around saying oh the baby's gonna ruin my life and stuff. You need to get help because there's nothing you can do about it. And your right, a baby is a very precious thing, but society thinks that a baby should be between an older man and woman. They frown upon young teenagers having baby's because they have steriotyped it to be between a married couple and all. Honestly, it's not bad to have a baby, it's bad to be running around doing what your not supposed to and stuff. That's why people frown upon it.

-Madeline<33

Answer 12

Im a teen mom. I had my son when i was 16, got pregnant at 15. The pregnancy was extremly hard, I hated going out because people would just stare at me. Dont let it bring you down. In my case I had my mothers help, and my boyfriends help. The fact that the father is excited and is willing to help you should mean alot. Having a child is a blessing, no matter how old you are. If you need any help within the next few months just e-mail me. Sometime's having someone who understands to talk to can help. COngratulations!!!  

Answer 13

Seriously, people who judge, how do they think that's going to help anything?  I'm so sick of "pro-choice" individuals who look down on young women who don't choose abortion, and the breed of holier-than-thou pro-lifers who still look down even THOUGH you didn't choose abortion.  How can a pregnant girl win?

Ignore them.  Find a non-judgmental support system.  Your local pregnancy center would be a good place to start- http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantag...  You're a normal person, and your future is bright!  Becoming a parent doesn't automatically mean losing your dreams or "ruining your life"- in fact, many parents say that parenting is the most fulfilling journey of their lives.

I wish you and your baby the absolute best!!!

<3 Kelsey

Answer 14

I totally understand what you are saying. I think it is not wrong at all. You know, maybe having s*x so young was a mistake, but theres no way the little baby inside was a mistake. I got pregnant at 13, and it made me realize so many things, things that you said, but also one of them being you really realize who your REAL friends are. I just found out one of my good friends Chris, his girl friend is 3 months pregnant. It scared the h**l outta him at first, but then he thought about it, being a dad. And he got so excited. I think if people could see it through a teen mom's eyes they would realize just how strong we really are.

**Take care & stay strong.

Answer 15

Because kids shouldn't have kids, sorry. I'm glad you grew up and took the responsibility, but not all of them do. Most of them w***e around and get abortions when necessary so they can w***e some more. That or they have the kid and dump it on their parents.

I'm stereotyping really bad, I understand that. But it's most of what I see these days and I'd rather see a teenage girl destroying her own life than bring a kid into the mix.

I absolutely adore children but I wouldn't have one right now, no way. I want to make sure my children have a stable foundation. And let's face the reality, a teen mother has a rare chance of doing that. You can't teach the ways of the world to someone without have experienced them yourself.

I hope you and your child are an exception to this. Much luck to you and your family.  

Answer 16

There's nothing wrong with being a pregnant teenager. The only "wrong" thing would be not taking responsibility for the consequences.

Pregnant teenagers can be just as good a mother as any other mom. I think people look down on them because of these stereotypes:

*leeching off welfare

*destroying their life/goals

*being a "s**t"

*being irresponsible

*it's their "fault"

etc.

  But with most pregnant teens the only difference between them and any other teenager is that they're...pregnant. It is what it is. That's the way I see it. I don't look down at teenage mothers. I look up to the ones with the strength to take responsibility for it though.

  I think the social stigma all boils down to stereotypes. People believe ALL pregnant teens are like the list up above. ^ But those are not the majority.

  Also some people don't think teenagers are mature enough to raise a baby, or have a stable job or education, or whatever. They may be right to an extent but pregnant teens, especially with programs around to help them nowadays, can find a way to make it work. It's not the end of their life.

Answer 17

yes, it is ******** retarded.

1, you are still a CHILD

2, your still hardly old enough to work at mcdonalds

3, you probably wont even be able to push the baby out -_-

what the h**l were you thinking?

nice job at ruining your life AND your babys life

how did your parents even let this happen?!

wow...

Answer 18

i don't see anything wrong with it. in fact, if i could, i would be pregnant too & i'm 16

Answer 19

I just don't think its good to be pregnant so young. You've got until you hit 40 to have a baby why not wait. So when you do you have finished school, got a good career, in love, maybe married, and your life is steady. When your young you want to enjoy the parties and have fun staying out late, and hanging with friends. You are going to miss out.  

Answer 20

society and closed minded people SUCK! People will alway look down on you for being a young mum (which is so wrong, but people regret that that doesnt mirror their own lives) But you just have to rise above it, and know that you are the best mum you can be and your child has the best you can give them. Some teenage mother take better care of their children then parents in their 30's but no-one bother to look at that.

Good on you for having a job and wanting to take care of your child on your own, most pregnant teens look to their parents for everything and just expect them to pay/look after the two of them. You seem to have taken this in your stride and are doing the best you can. Im sure you will be a great mother.

Take care and good luck