Is it still suppose to hurt so bad?

Question

I lost my grandfather a little over 2 years ago of cancer. Still to this day it hurts just as bad as it did the day that I lost him. I think about him all the time and when I am alone I break down and can't stop myself from crying. I can't talk about him with family members or friends without crying. He was my hero and my only father figure. I took care of him for a couple of months just before his passing and we grew very close. He promised me that he would put my little girl on the bus on her first day of school and he never made it. He kept telling me that he was going to be alright and he wasn't.

My grandmother is already remarried, I feel like I am the only one that misses him. I keep him with me everyday, and it seems like everyone else can just block out the fact that he is gone.

Is it normal to still be upset all the time like I am after so long?

Answer 1

First of all, I am truly really sorry about your loss. I have lost my grandfather too. It is hard, and especially even more harder when the two of you used to be so close.

It sounds like you need closeure. It may be hard, but find some help. Go see a therapist if you need to. Do whatever it takes for you to feel better. You don't have to forget him, but you should move on from this horrible pain. It's not healthy.

Just remember all the good memories you've shared with him when he was alive and well. It might still make you cry, but keep doing this and in time, you can think of him and finally smile!

Answer 2

Sorry for your loss. I understand the feelings of loss. Even now and then I am sad because of my losses.

But I seriously think you should consider seeing a grief counselor.

They say usually someone goes six months feeling this way, but you have gone much longer.

Please see someone (grief counselor)....

Answer 3

It sounds like you had a very good relationship with him.  It hurts so much sometimes that you can't breathe.  You have to learn to concentrate on the good things that happened between you and the good part of the relationship and not on the fact that he is gone.  That's what I have taught my daughter to do about her papaw.  Sometimes she finds pennies on the ground and we tell her they are pennies from heaven.  You really need to understand that when they suffer with cancer or any other terminal illness death is their relief.  I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time but if you believe in heaven then you know where he is.

Answer 4

yes it is normal.  you lost someone you loved very much and yall were close.