Is it stupid for me to want to find my father?

Question

Okay Im asking this because my dad was not around, it hurts still because it feels like he just didnt give a c**p about me.. And at the same time I feel like an idiot to feel crappy and to have cried because of it.. I have only two pictures of him and that is it. I have tried searching where he is from which is Queretaro, Queretaro, Mexico. Ever since I was a kid I wondered how come my "dad" was never there and I always said he was going to come one day and I'd meet him... Silly huh?. Im 15 and about to be 16 in December so Im just hoping that I can find him some day. Is this stupid of me for wanting to find a "father" who probably never wanted to see me??

Answer 1

heck no! its human nature to find/meet/know their parents. they're a part of you, they created you. so by all means, if you feel comfortable finding him, then go for it! Don't you ever feel stupid, or silly for crying about it or thinking about it. good luck on your search.

Answer 2

no its not, its normal

Answer 3

As far as you know.. he may have been looking for you too.. and looking to contact you.

I don't think its silly.. its natural to want to know who your parents are and what they are like.. and want to know things about them.

Sounds cliche, but he probably has his reasons for not being around.. and i think he should have the opportunity to explain.

I hope this helps :)

Good Luck :) x

Answer 4

No, it is definitely not stupid.

It sounds like you have some feelings that you want him to resolve with you.

Growing up I was very blessed to have both my father and my mother in my life and I feel like if either of them were missing I would hot be the same as I am today.

I needed to have my dad there to keep me grounded and to keep me strong in my faith and in every other aspect of my life and my mother was the one that gave me advice.

I definitely think it is very worth finding your father. You need to tell him how you feel.

Be honest.

Good luck finding him. It's not stupid. It's worth it!