Is it supposed to hurt that much?

Question

So me and my boyfriend were making out and I wanted to go to the next level, so I was going to give him a handy. But then he told me that it was my turn, so I let him. But it kind of hurt. Like a LOT. Sometimes it felt good but other times it was painful and didn't at all. I'd only done that once before and I thought it was natural that it was uncomfortable then too. But it was a long time ago and I figured that it would start feeling good. Is there something wrong with me? I feel really bad that I kind of lied to him and told him it felt good because I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

Answer 1

When a girl give a guy a handie, there is almost no way to do it wrong. But girls are different. Guys do not automatically know how to do it. Also, different women like it done different ways. You have to teach him, show him, talk to him. Guide his hands with your hands, talk to him ("higher, lower, softer, harder, slower, faster," etc.) Believe me, he wants to learn. And when he is doing it right, let him know, "Yeah, yeah, that's great! keep it up!"

Answer 2

lol i agree with sweetness...

or maybe you just don't like it...

some girls don't

Answer 3

No, it shouldn't he's being too rough and you're too young.

Answer 4

Foreplay is a time-learning  'play'.  A good manicure is very, very important, especially if your partner works with their hands for an income. Guiding your partner's hands is the next step. Plus they can find 'that your helping' is a big turn on too.

Try starting with massages before going for the very sensitive areas.

Slow....

Answer 5

He probably wasnt doing it right.

Answer 6

When a guy is experienced enough to know what he's doing, it should bring you pleasure, not hurt.  Some guys are disgustingly rough and they poke and prod and rub like they're trying to get a mustard stain out of a shirt!

Don't EVER lie to a guy and tell him it feels good if it doesn't!  That is sooo wrong!  How will he ever learn to do it differently and do it right if he thinks you're enjoying it the way he's doing it!!  Try taking his hand and gently show him what you like and what kind of pressure to use.  That's the best way for him to learn.