Is it time to end it, or is this a place for sacrifice?

Question

(attn contacts: I'm using my best friends account, so no, I am not Miranda!)

It's kind of difficult to explain but-

Me and my boyfriend have been together for four years. Now.... well, I'm in college. I'm in the last semester of my two-year community college and am now transferring to a Uni. My boyfriend is starting his music career (don't tell me he's going to be a fuckup, it's not a dream, he's serious about it and also has a back-up plan).... Well, that's where it gets complicated. We both want to move from here- only, to different places.

For years and years I've wanted terribly to attend a certain university. It's better in so many ways, than the U here and the one where he wants to go.

For years and years.... he's been pursuing his music career. He's doing great already and hasn't even gone full force with what he can do. This has always been what he wants to do and I KNOW that he WILL be successful with this. But- he has his dream place he wants this to happen at (a music-oriented city with the best recording studios and opportunities)- about 400 miles from where I will be attending college for 4-ish years.

We've known that this was going to be a problem for a while now.... but we've kind of ignored it, not wanting to deal with it.

I know that compromise is the ultimate solution for things like this, but these are big things....

I mean I can choose either the love of my life or the college of my dreams (or have him give up what he wants/needs).

Why oh why can't life just leave these situations to the movies....

Do you have any SUGGESTIONS, ADVICE, THOUGHTS??

Answer 1

I think the best thing you both can do is TALK. If you both want to make a go of it & try the long distance thing for a bit, see how it wrks out - plan days when he'll travel up to you & vice versa. If you both believe you're theones for each other, then there's nothing that will keep you two apart.

God bless X  

Answer 2

If you guys are really the ones for each other then go with him and to the other University. After all it comes down to you maintaining your own goals. That could happen anywhere.  If you do decide to go to the U of your dreams then I pray you guys will end up sticking it out.  But in all i would just make the scarifice for him if i loved him as much as you do.

Answer 3

You should go to the Univesity of your dreams in my opinion. There is no mataining a long term relationship. If you go to the Uni , you may lose him to another and he may make it big.If you go to the Uni of your dreams you will get a solid degree for what's it 's worth now a days with inflation bushnomics and such. The choice is yours.