Is it time to fire my pedritician?

Question

he has been following my daughter since she was born but he can never seem to give me real answers . i am desperately thinking about seaking second opinions on everything he tells me . my hubby thinks i am overreacting but i want the best when it comes to my daughter's health.here are samples.

when she started not gaining weight i had told him that she wont eat for some reasons like she would go for hours and hours without being hungry and it is a hassle to feed her even when she didnt eat , at first he said it is normal it is a stage this was when she is 4 to 5 months . finanlly at 7,8 months i asked him to do some testes cause i dont know why she wont eat then he started worrying . needless to say i was left with staying home with her . secondo . she had had loose stools for more than a month and nothing he could find wrong in her stools. that was it so we had to wait for it to stop on his own . now the issue is that my daughter has this kind of extra skin like hemmoroids near her r****m since birth . i showed him this and he said it is just extra skin that baby dont get hemmoroids . but it is been there for nearly 15 months and it is not even going away . i dont understand . am i overreacting ? is it time to get a new doc ? what do YA mothers think?

Answer 1

Time for a different opinion!!  Always trust your Mother's intuition.

Answer 2

Get another ped. soon because if you search online for baby hemorrhoids alot of doctors say yes baby's can get hemorrhoids. obviously he is not very concerned with your babies health

Answer 3

I would have changed doctors at 7 months.  

Answer 4

my son has medical issues, my water broke at 16 weeks they said he would never live i stayed in bed and carried him until 29 weeks. he was 2lb 7oz and had some medical issues. heart defect and heart surgery were the big ones. don't mess around with your child's health, if you don't feel comfortable with what your dr is telling you by all means go get a second opinion. you dr will never have to know you did it unless you want to tell him/her.  i have many times went to get a second opinion, you don't get a second chance with a child.  your husband may think your overreacting but that's ok, he'll get over it.  if i were you i would be seeking a second opinion just to ease my mind, i sure hope things turn out ok

Answer 5

If you don't feel comfortable with your child's doctor and he's not listening to you or taking your issues seriously, then yes it's time for a new dr.  Nothing wrong with doing that or getting a second opinion, it's your baby.

Answer 6

Your ped should be your friend and also give you advice.  I would be firing them also.  I will tell you something, many peds today have to be very careful on what they say and do.  There are so many people blaming them for everything that is wrong with their kids.  I would ask your friends about who they use and if they are happy.  I know it's hard and you want your ped to be there for you.  Maybe the new one you find might be better.  Better to change if you are feeling doubt.  You want what is best for your kid.  Good luck.  

Answer 7

Of course you are not overreacting. Just like you said, you want the best when it comes to your daughters health. I think you should definitely seek a second opinion, and when you do choose the pediatrician you want to take your daughter to, make sure you do your research. Maybe it's word of mouth, or he has some information online about his office. I really do hope that everything is okay with your daughter. Mothers always have that feeling, so if you are worrying and you just have that gut feeling, then it's always most likely right.  

Answer 8

Trust your mother's intuition! Sounds like he isn't doing his job and you should find a new doctor.  

Answer 9

Yes, a New pediatrician. Take all the records from your old one to a new one. Ask other moms in the area who they use.

Answer 10

OMG!! i cant beleive this pediatrition!!

my son wasnt gaining weight for a month and my pediatrition said to be concerned and that if it cont he would do a series of tests... im so sorry u are dealing with this and on top of that arent getting and real help, which leaves u very concerned.

and the hemmoroid looking things... does not sound normal and ud be able to tell if it was just "extra skin"

again i feel for u and am sorry to hear this.. but PLEASE please PLEASE get a new doct!!

and dont think u are a bad mother for not changing docts or anything... u should be able to trust ur doct...

and good job for using ur motherly instinct!!

good luck and she is in my prayers!!

Answer 11

I had to fire my pediatrician.  She was rather famous and had written several books, but every time I left her office I felt like I was incompetent and either overly concerned or not concerned enough.  I found a new pediatrician and absolutely ADORE him.

Point is, you should not have to second guess yourself.  Your pediatrician should help ease your fears, not cause more.  And you won't really know if you are over-reacting until you get a second opinion and have more information.  The others are right - ALWAYS trust your motherly intuition.